4 months PP with DC2 and MS relapse - feeling blue please send cheer!

[sarmum14]

Hi all,

I had my DD 4 months ago (already have a 4yo DS) and had been anticipating and MS relapse (have RRMS) in the first 12 months after birth because that’s what happened last time, but wasn’t expecting it so soon. I’m feeling so so so blue and it’s really taking it’s toll on my mental health. I think also because this episode is different to others and at first I thought it was excruciating dental pain but it turns out not to be. I’m miserable and in so much pain and it’s been going on for a month now and I’m losing the will to be a positive parent. I don’t really know what I’m trying to post here - just having a pity party and looking for some good cheer or advice. I find daily tasks so hard. DH is WFH but so stressed and DS just started school but is a bit shy and not loving it. Everything seems miserable at the moment and I’m annoyed at having mat leave robbed by this as well as bloody Covid.

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Hey I am being tested for MS. There is an excellent group on Fb called Ms UK and you may get great support there. Thought I would just advise.

I’m so sorry Sarmum14, that sounds really tough.

I have no words of wisdom I’m afraid. I can’t begin to imagine how hard it must be looking after a young baby and 4 year old whilst dealing with the pain and exhaustion of MS - it’s just not fair!

You have a pity party, you deserve it and yes life is pretty rubbish all round at the moment thanks to Covid!

Is it worth speaking with your GP about how you’re feeling? It seems to be that there’s very little support out there for people with long term chronic illnesses but maybe worth a try?

Please don’t worry about your parenting, it sounds like you’re doing an amazing job, just by the fact that you’re on here worrying about them! It sounds like you’re doing all you can at the moment and you just have to trust that this current flare will pass and just try to take it an hour at a time, day by day.