I had an emergency ileostomy in 2014 reversed a year later. If you want to PM me, feel free.
Pros:
Once recovered from surgery, it was great to have no pain. The stoma nurses were brilliant and help was at the end of a phone /regular initial visits when necessary. Online support from the Ileostomy Association and other similar groups was useful and reassuring. Any minor issues with stoma fit were sorted really quickly and I was changed from a flat to a convex bag. There are many types and what you start out with may change as your stoma heals/shrinks.The aim is always to get a very close fit around the stoma,
I had very few issues with what I could eat, in fact I was able to eat steak again, which I hadn’t been able to for years. Drinking was more of a problem (e.g. a glass of coke would be in the bag within 5 mins, so seemed pointless drinking it!).
I soon got into routines and went back to work full time after 4 months (although it actually took 9 months to feel genuinely well and fit again, but I’d been extremely run down and Crohns ill, which is why my ileo was an emergency job).
Finding places to change a bag out and about was never a problem, but I already had a disabled toilet key. You do need to be very aware of where your nearest disabled loo is, you need sink facilities.
Cons:
My ileostomy was high-output which meant I had to take a LOT of Immodium a day (32 tablets) to control it. I also had issues with low magnesium because of this and had an emergency infusion on UK holiday as I was having heart cramps 😱. You really need to listen to your body and act if anything seems different.
Due to the high output and inability to drink volumes of anything, I had to drink 1l of Dioralyte a day (easy enough when made up with blackcurrant juice and sipped during the day).
Again, due to the high output, I couldn’t go longer than 3hrs overnight reliably without emptying my bag, so I had to set my alarm at 3am every night (and ended up going to bed later at midnight as a result, getting up at 6). Because I was working full time I was really exhausted.
Overnight I occasionally had leaks. You get used to cleaning yourself up and fitting a new bag whilst half asleep within 5mins lol.
I couldn’t wear some of my jeans or work teousers with a bag but I just used this as an excuse to go shopping. Tunics and stretchy leggings became my friends (though Matalan stretchy skinny jeans were fine over the bag). If you didn’t know I had a stoma, you wouldnt have guessed.
Reversal:
I considered keeping the stoma, but wanted at least a shot of being stoma free. Since the second op (and being on Humira) at 50 years old I am the most well and fittest I’ve EVER been in my life. I run (did C25K last year and went from there, doing a half marathon later this year) I horse ride and am back to all previous activities.
Would I have another stoma? If necessary, absolutely yes. The fear is far worse than the reality. I’d hope that another one wouldn’t be so high output though.