Is it likely a 50 yr old healthy person has filled in an Advance Care Directive? (Trigger warning)

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Trigger warning due to talk of AD.

My 80yr old mother has cancer.
She been asked to fill in an Advance Care Directive, and I think my brother is trying to convince her to go for assisted dying under conditions she wouldn't choose for herself.

I am in the UK and can't travel due to disability.

My brother tells lies all the time, is abusive to my mother but she believes him and puts up with his crap.

I want to find out if what's he's said is a lie.

He has told her that he's filled in this form and chose certain options, such as wanting AD if incontinent or in a nursing home.

But he's 50 years old, no dependents, no illnesses, no mention of filling in this form previously. No talk with mum about who his Person Responsible will be etc

So what are the chances he's actually filled this form in?

I’m in my early 40s, physically healthy and I have this in place. It’s called a living will here. I just didn’t want my children or partner being left to make difficult decisions about my care in the future.

My understanding of voluntary assisted dying is that it is a separate process to filling out an advance care directive.

It’s very rigorous and needs at least two doctors to sign off on it, and the person concerned must have a prognosis of death within six months. Conditions may vary by state (it’s state law, not federal) but I think most states have equally strict conditions. It’s not something that can be achieved easily, or because the person has been coerced by an relative into signing a form.

If you’re concerned, I would try to contact your mum’s GP. They won’t be able to disclose anything, but you can express your concerns about coercion and elder abuse, so they can look out for it.

ETA: You can do a living will and make your wishes known, e.g. turn off life support/no heroic meaures. But it’s not necessarily binding.

Okay thank you. That's a good idea to share my concerns with her GP.
My mum actually wants me to be her Responsible Person (in her words, because I'm much more sensible) but isn't sure if that is okay with me not in Australia. That's the only reason she hasn't done it yet, she was meant to ask her GP but was admitted to hospital three weeks ago.

My brother is the boy that cried wolf, one day he might tell the truth but no one will believe him!

I just wasn't sure if it was a routine form that everyone is asked to fill in.

He has told her that he's filled in this form and chose certain options, such as wanting AD if incontinent or in a nursing home

I’m in Aus in health system, and this is not right. AD is a completely separate process to advanced care directives. It’s a very specialised process and there is no way your brother will be able to speak for your mother, or indeed be present with her for certain discussions.