12 yr old son increasingly prefers Dad's house

[colourmystic]

Hi all,
So I'm kinda looking for input or feedback. 12 yr old son as stated is coming up with more excuses to hang at Dad's instead of mine (Mum) and I'm pretty sure that's normal at this age. There's his older male cousin living there, better internet, more games, more junk food etc. I wouldn't mind at all, but Dad's house is really untidy and unclean and there's not the same emphasis on screen-free time, nutrition etc there.
Wondering if I should bend over backwards to make Mum's house more 'fun', if I should insist he sticks to schedule, if I should accept it; it's tricky because our houses are less than a km apart so it seems mean of me to insist on the schedule.
What are your thoughts?

I’d talk to him. Ask why he wants to spend more time with his dad. And say you are concerned, give your reasons, then ask if there’s anything he’d like you to do to make life at yours more fun.

does he get enough sleep and food at his dad’s? Does he get homework done, do chores? Or does he game all the time?