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Struggling badly

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Charltonstrek · 07/03/2025 16:07

I've worked in the same residential home for the last 20 years with the same 4 ladies with a nice staff team who I got on well with.
I have adhd plus autism suffer from anxiety but always struggled through.
I've been happy in my job as its a routine I've been in for the last 20 years and I'm very comfortable I don't know anything else.
My mental health as took a dive due to the home been closed I miss everything about the place staff patients and I'm completely floored by the closure I'm just not confident to go elsewhere but I'm trying to force myself but I feel like a complete idiot everywhere I go as I don't know the routine and I can't find a place rthe same again. I've joined another company and I feel awful and finding it difficult to mix in the patients are completely different to what I'm used to although they do seem to like me.
I've also have a very mean colleague there who excludes me and doesn't talk to me. I am sensitive I know that but I was so upset as this colleague welcomed another new starter all smiles and like best friends I don't know why all other staff are okay with me but I feel so awkward.
I'm really depressed about it all not just the mean colleague but everything I only do casual hours as I get overwhelmed at full time but I didn't mind doing more hours at my old place as I was comfortable there but now I don't know if I'll ever be able to settle or even find anywhere like my old place again.

OP posts:
SkaneTos · 07/03/2025 22:08

Hello,
It must be difficult to start working somewhere else, after working in the same place for 20 years! It's completely normal to miss the old place, the colleagues, the routine, etc.
It's also completely normal to feel out of place in a new job - everything is new, and it takes times to get used to everything. It is a challenge, but you are doing your best! Well done!

The mean colleague sounds terrible.

What else is going on in your life? Do you have any interests/hobbies for your free time?

TheSandgroper · 11/03/2025 09:46

As above, a new job after 20 years is always a struggle to not look back.

Have you been there long enough yet to be able to create little routines for yourself that can keep you grounded? Even if it’s just adjusting curtains in a room that’s rarely used?

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