Baby blanket TW Baby loss

[QueenofClutter]

Not sure this is the right place to post, didn't want to post in any of the pregnancy groups due to the sensitive nature.

My grandson and his partner are expecting their first baby, a girl, and i want to make a blanket for the little one.

Seven years ago he and his then partner had a baby unfortunately born sleeping. They split up a few months later. His new partner knows about this baby, also a girl, and together they both commemorate her every year.

I've seen a lovely pattern for a blanket, it's chevrons in rainbow stripes. My question is do you think it would be inappropriate to make this for the new baby?

I wouldn't mind seeing as I don't buy into that whole rainbow baby stuff but you'd have to ask your DIL if she feels the same way.

There are hundreds of lovely patterns out there. Choose another. There is no need whatsoever to risk upset.

Of course, making a blanket for the new baby would be lovely! I'm not sure about rainbow stripes though. Can you make it more pastels, or white? For no other reason than I associate lighter colours with newborns.

In all honesty I would steer away from rainbows.

The Mum of his firstborn will probably look online for photos and this may hurt her to have rainbow themes acknowledging her child with a child shes not involved with (I know that's not your intention but she may see ut that way).

Also his partner may not wish for her baby to be perceived as a 'rainbow baby'. (I am a bereaved parent and I absolutely hate that term.)

It may not cause any upset at all, but I really wouldn't risk it at such an emotive time for all.

I think a plain blanket would be more appropriate.
Rainbows seems a little insensitive towards his new partner.

I don't think you should do this. Choose another pattern.
This baby is a new life.
The mother may not appreciate the rainbow sentiment so don't risk it and don't ask about it as that puts her in an awkward position.

This. I would have loved a handmade baby blanket but choose another pattern.

(I had 2 losses before DC and didnt consider him a "rainbow baby". He is his own person. I wouldnt have liked a rainbow blanket for him).

Thank you for your thoughts. I just loved the pattern when I saw it but then realised about the rainbow connotations. I will find another pattern.

Why don’t you just make the pattern but with lovely soft pastel colours instead? And mix them up so that it couldn’t be construed as a rainbow?

If you love the pattern can you skip the ROYGBIV rainbow and have a subtle gradient instead?

E.g mushroom, cream, lemon, peach, light pink, sorbet pink, brighter pink?

Personally I hate the rainbow baby terminology but a cohesive gradient would be lovely.