He hates my singing

[Mumthe1]

Am I being unrreasonable to sing when DH says he hates my sinigng voice. I was in school choir & always loved singing. I do it to make me feel good but DH can"t stand it & is very rude to me. He leaves the room or puts headphones on. What to do?

Sing elsewhere? Sing when he’s out?

If he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t like it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Presumably he’s not there all the time? I’d sing when he’s out, unless having a DP who enjoys listening to you sing is a deal breaker for you, in which case you need to leave him. You can’t force him to like it.

@Mumthe1 maybe your singing is actually bad ? If it’s not , then I totally understand your partner for not wanting to listen to you sing as he most likely prefers quiet time at home . I wouldn’t like to listen to anyone sing after hard day at work . Just sing when he’s out of the house.. he clearly doesn’t want you to sing to HIM .

He is taking your joy. That sucks for you, you deserve someone who supports you!

Sing when he’s not around. I can imagine it’s annoying for him.

He’s not telling you not to sing, he’s removing himself or blocking the sound so I can’t see the problem. You are doing nothing wrong but I’d probably find it annoying too and I love music, particularly classical music.

Awh, I can empathise.

The way I enjoy songs is to sing along. DP thinks I have a great voice.

However, DPs way to enjoy songs is to not have me singing along. He likes the vocalist vocalising.

We've still not found a happy medium.

If you find one, let me know!

Just do it when he's not around. I can't stand it when husband (or anyone else) sings loudly along to songs playing. It's like nails down a blackboard.

It's bugger all to do with how good their singing voice is however. It just is. I'm not rude about it though, I just remove myself.

Does he do anything that annoys you?

Can you join a local singing group?

Look up your local Rock Choir and book a taster session in September (www.rockchoir.com). We don't care of someone has told you that you can't sing as long as you love it! No auditions, no music reading, no singing on your own. That should give you your singing fix. Singing is good for your mental health, your DH will just have to leave the room 😂

I've got a cousin who is in a choir and she warbles away to herself all day. Even if you're mid conversation, she'll break into song. It does not spark joy.

Your husband has said he doesn't like your singing. I'm team husband. Do it when he's not around.

I don’t think anyone likes my singing voice. So I save it for the car

it is annoying to listen to someone singing a lot when you just want a bit of peace

He puts headphones on or leaves the room so just sing. He doesn’t like it and he’s doing something to avoid listening to it. He shouldn’t have to sit and listen to it if he doesn’t like it but that doesn’t mean you have to stop

Enjoying something and being good at it don’t necessarily go hand in hand! Let him go elsewhere and pop his headphones in if he wants to.
I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be subject to any kind of noise/music that you found irritating.

I had a schoolfriend who was in the choir and really enjoyed singing. In later life, she used to go round in a group singing old favourites in care homes. I used to avoid listening when and wherever I could because I really couldn't bear her voice- but I never told her!