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WEDDING INVITATIONS- TREASURE CHEST POEM

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:09

the invites i am making need one of those 'don't buy us a gift...give us your money' type poems.

i found loads for wishing wells ...and many very american sounding ones....just wondered if any of you have any you can post here?

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Flamesparrow · 29/01/2007 10:23

lmao - is it not just tempting to write "don't buy us a gift...give us your money"

kittylette · 29/01/2007 10:24

We have cupboards of glasses, pots, pans and dishes
So to help us fullfull our weddingday wishes,
We ask you kindly, to not to buy a present,
but instead give money to bless this event .

??

SoupDragon · 29/01/2007 10:26

Oh blimey no! You don't put gift requests on the invitation!!

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:29

that's it....keep it flowing!

Yes flames....i like that!

i am desparate to sort this today...cos ... the person the cards are for gave me the poem..and somewhere in this house i have safely put it....and now have no idea where it is....could be anywhere...even amongst the sea of socks that is flowing all over the place!

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kittylette · 29/01/2007 10:30

i would,

im planning to, id rather have a few people think 'ooh thats a bit of a faux pas' than have 5 sets of dishes that i dont need

and the things that i do need - like money to pave my front path to make it safe for the kiddies, i dont get

or maybe id send it out seperatly, - so its not on the invitaion, but id ask one way or another

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:31

i know soup...i agree!

and theres me feeling worse cos 'I'm' making tghe invites... so i even feel the guests will think it was my idea to add the poem!!!

(makes me think of people asking for a gift- but give the receipt so if we don't like it we can take it baqck and get something better!!!!)

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beckybrastraps · 29/01/2007 10:34

If you want to avoid getting 5 lots of the same thing you make a wedding list.

A 'please give us some money' request on an invitation would irritate me a bit.

And dressing it up as a poem would make it worse I think.

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:39

i made her the 'save the date cards'...all pink/ivory as she wanted... then when discussing her wedding invites she first of all let it drop that her colour theme was now ivory,gold and deep red...and that 'it doesn't matter if you have to do the invites pink....i don't really mind'...and me being her Aunty....and the fact that i am a perfectionist.... and ME wanting her invites to match her wedding theme....well i have stashed away all the pink and bought red/gold...no probs cos i'll surely use the pink for another order.
however... she then said can i include the menu....the treasure poem... the evening party invite.....the RSVP/stamped/addressed ....

and i am now all confused...as the design i had made is not 'big enough' for all this....and i have this horrible feeling i am back to square one with this....i feel swamped.

and i'm doing this as her wedding gift...so its not as if i'll get a fat cheque at the end!!! (still... so far from the 'savethe dates' cards i have 2 wedding orders and 1 christening....so i should do ok!!!)

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Flamesparrow · 29/01/2007 10:40

more wishing wells?

I like #5 "Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!"

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:45

yes- the lived in sin one is good....jokey...fun....and i think people would see the humour and not be offended.

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 10:47

...and something short and sweet i could easily print onto a 'tag' and simply add ribbon and tie it to the card....
but the full blown poem i think she wants...is far too big.

i thought about making a small concertina book shaped like a treasure chest...or at least with a treasure chest on the front.... but the thought of 40 of those by wednesday makes me feel yuck!!

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Flamesparrow · 29/01/2007 11:13

Argh - that sounds like hell! I like the idea of the tag tied on

SoupDragon · 29/01/2007 13:45

please go with "don't buy us a gift...give us your money"

A tag is probably the best way to go - can you tie it so it hangs inside the invitation? Deep red ribbon round the spine or something.

SoupDragon · 29/01/2007 13:48

(Kitty, I meant that gift requests should, IMO, go out after someone has replied to the invitation, not with it, be it a wedding list or requests for vouchers/money.)

ivelostmyboobsboohoo · 29/01/2007 15:03

please dont mention gifts, money etc on the invite, imho its very crass, but i know most people seem to do it.

Anisse · 29/01/2007 15:09

Have to be honest, if someone asked me for dosh inside a wedding invite I would find that quite rude.

Why dont you put please contact x (a relative) for further details. Then are leaving it to someone else to ask for the money politely for you.

Would come across much more softly.

SoupDragon · 29/01/2007 15:38

MissesF is making the invites for someone else so it's not really her choice

ivelostmyboobsboohoo · 29/01/2007 15:50

oh ok i must have missed that quite vital bit- still think its crass tho!!!!!!!! but forgive missesf!!!

MrsForgetful · 29/01/2007 16:38

THANKS SOUP!!!!

I've actually had a good idea...the cogs have been turning.....

I've asked my neice if i can 'conceal' the poem inside a pretty mock envelope stuck to the inside of the card....that way it doesn't 'jump out with a begging bowl' straight away as you open it!

I'm glad i got married 18 years ago... back then all you did was get engaged..send out wedding invites...get married.....

all this 'save the date' and 'save the gifts...give us your dosh' is soooo much!

(even the reception had me shocked...£40 per head...and that's 'cheap' apparently....and if you want the dining chairs swagged in fabric with ribbons and ballons its an extra £10 a head!!! when we got married it was £12.50 a head!!!...all ribbons and balloons included!)

MrsForgetful · 29/01/2007 16:42

ILMYboobs...thats ok!!!

To be honest...making invites for people has been a real eyeopener.... this one has revealed that she's inviting 'parts' of close family....and if the others moan they can pay for a meal....i find it quite hard to remain neutral...and am really worried I will get drawn into the probable squables...my inlaws are like the maffia...so i will have to watch my back!

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MissesF · 29/01/2007 16:44

ooops...that MRSFORGETFUL post was MEEEEEE!
I've changed my name...and slipped up there!!!

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Flamesparrow · 29/01/2007 16:52

Oh I like the concealed idea

We had an essay length letter in our invite telling people where they could stay, to contact us if they wanted help finding somewhere, and a little bit about gifts at the very bottom. The most awkward letter we've ever had to write!!!

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MissesF · 30/01/2007 00:05

steaming ahead now...doing it as a trifold card with invite details in centre of inside- and on both 'gatefold'flaps..am putting an evelope- one for tresure poem- the other for menu....so when they open they just see the invite details....

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Flamesparrow · 30/01/2007 08:02

Sounds lovely

Flamesparrow · 31/01/2007 09:08

Are they all done?