not sure if this is the right place yet (could be sensitive)

[liahgenispreggerswithnumber6]

we are execting dc 6, am only 6 wks but had just genaral chat with dh this morning about the 12 nuchal and amnio etc.

History has always been good but I am 43 now and so will def have nuchal at 12 wks,

dh asked what we would do and I have to say that I kind of assumed that we wouldn't carry on with the pg if problems were shown. My reasons were that it will be a 6th child, we are not getting any younger, possibly leaving it when we die, any other problems that are associated with downs, (ie heart etc)

Dh then surprised me by saying that he thought quite the opposite in that all the other dc's would still be around, the "child" would hopefully be an adult by the time we go etc etc, and this will be our last chance so whatever will be will be kind of thing.

So I think I'm asking, what other kind of things could be wrong? Downs with no other health problems (ie low risk of losing child early) is completely livable isn't it? but what about other more serious conditions.

I know I'm probably getting well ahead of myself and hopefully won't even need to think about it but I realise now after him saying that I need to give it some thought at least.

Ignore my ramblings if they don't make sense.

Have never been worried before but for some reason I'm feeling really anxious about this pg.

thanks.

I can't help on other things, but my DS3 has Downs, and we didn't realise until he after he was born, despite having all 'routine' screening like scans, triple test etc. I am now pregnant again and am not having an amnio, despite being offered one routinely this time (because of previous Downs pregnancy) as I would not terminate.

My son had heart surgery at 6 months and he has a ocuple of on going health problems, but having a baby with Downs really isn't that different to having a child without it, and it certainly doesn't affect my other children negatively.

I would probably try not to worry about any of it for now, plenty of women your age have perfectly healthy babies.

thank you, I guess what i was looking for was a positive story of a family that has been there.

I appreciate you replying. x

thanks riven since he said it, I've been thinking about it and tbh I really don't think I could terminate anyway. We'd deal with it however it turns out.

As you say, noone could predict what happened to you. Thanks.

Hi,

Congrats on your pg

I am 42 and nearly 25 wks with number 5.

I didnt have any tests. I didnt with DC4 either (now 2).

I can only tell you my reasons. DS2 has learning difficulties. Nothing would have shown up with antenatal testing, infact we couldnt be sure until fairly recently how serious his difficulties could be. I also had a very healthy, very clever, beautiful DD who bearly had a moments illness till she was 12. Then she got cancer and died two years later.

These two things have made me feel that whatever happens we can deal with it. There are worse things than to have a disabled child.

This is MY opinion and I honestly DO NOT judge harshly those who think differently from me. Its how I feel and luckily so does my OH.

But I have not had to face the choice made by so many women regarding antenatal testing so I could never swear what I would do for sure.

You have to do what you can live with.

I always thought I would terminate a pregnancy if the child had problems then we were told we would lose our baby and when we didn't I decided no tests as I was having him regardless. Same with dc3 when we were told there were problems.

chegirl for the 2nd time today I am reduced to tears by another's strength I am so sorry for your loss

I'm not sure I will even have the tests having spent time thinking about it today.

Thank you for sharing everyone.

Ooops sorry liah.

I keep bursting into tears because I have that awful Extreme Makeover USA programme on!

Flippin hormones eh?

You do what you feel it right for you and your family.

Wishing you a lovely pg