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Feel so unhappy re abortion

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itshitme · 30/08/2009 00:26

Got back from a few days away to find that my appointment for a termination has come through for Tues, I've been trying to put it to the back of my mind whilst I've bben away, but now, I feel so sick and panicky, I need to get some sleep, but don't want to go upstairs where dp is.

How can I get through this?

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Dalrymps · 01/09/2009 12:37

Ah, a bit shit you've not got a clinic closer. Hopefully the time till the app will pass quickly. Good that oldest dd will be at school too, one less thing to think about.

Don't feel guilty about going on the support thread. I haven't looked at it myself but if it's for people who have had an abortion against their wishes then maybe there's a slightly different thread for people who've had to chose to because of their cicumstances like you? I'm sure i've seen one like that knocking about?... Anyway, it's not really something you're just flippantly and happily chosing to do, it's a heart wrenching decision you've had to make. You're doing the right thing for you and you're family, please don't beat yourself up about it.

alicet · 01/09/2009 21:35

nothing practical to add - think the advice you've already given has been excellent.

Just want to say that I support your decision 100%. As i also would if you were choosing to keep the baby. Either way its a tough call for you. Please try not to feel like you have less 'right' to grieve over this because it is your chouce. It is, but at the same time you have made it for very good reasons that are well considered.

I know who you are and I too am here if you need a chat - I think you have my email / phone but if you don't then post on the usual thread and I can call / email you.

thinking of you xxx

FloriaTosca · 01/09/2009 22:28

I think Alicet has said it all... and I would like to say the same. It is a horribly tough call to make, and not one you are making selfishly.. and you absolutely have the same right to grieve as anyone else who has to go through this for whatever reason. I too support whatever decision you make 100% ... you know where I am if you need me.

pucca · 01/09/2009 22:32

Itshitme....I have been through this, if you want any advice or have any questions email me on [email protected]

Personally i wouldn't reccommend BPAS for reasons i won't go into on here

Dalrymps · 01/09/2009 22:39

itshitme - Just wanted to add that alicet has said what I was trying to say but a lot more eliquently

NumptyMum · 01/09/2009 22:56

ItsHitMe - do check out the support thread; I think for whatever reason someone has or considers a termination, it is a very difficult decision and is so hard to go through. Therefore even though the reasons for making the decision may differ, the understanding of what you feel will be there. I've found being on the support thread really helpful, there are lots of very gentle, kind souls there. I only know what happens regarding later termination, so don't know if it is any help, but there is a midwife on the thread who may know more about what happens earlier in pregnancy. I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this situation .

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ItsHitMe · 02/09/2009 21:39

Thank you all for your lovely replies

I'm a bit numb at the moment and trying not to think about it, I'm better when I keep busy, I will look at the other thread and may post..at some point.

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Dalrymps · 02/09/2009 22:38

just do what you think's right, if you don't wanna think about it now then don't, if you wanna post on the thread then do. If you do wanna chat you know where I am... No need to reply x

TheLadyEvenstar · 02/09/2009 22:59

itshitme, you know where i am if you need a chat hun, you have my number/email xx

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