Anxiety over 20 week scan

[Dinkydonut1]

I am 17 weeks with my 2nd baby and I am having extreme anxiety about my upcoming 20 week scan. I think this is compounded by the fact that I have had 2 previous pregnancy losses and this is an IVF pregnancy after 5 years ttc. I’m not really sure what I’m asking for here, but does anyone have any words of wisdom/advice on how I can get through the next few weeks without feeling a pit in my stomach constantly? :(

I'm sorry you're feeling anxious, it's such a difficult time, especially after losses and a long time TTC.

I paid privately for additional scans between my NHS scans because I was so anxious after several losses and 3.5 years TTC #1.

I knew in my head that the scans wouldn't change any outcome and so in theory were pointless, but they did silence the anxiety for a short while to some extent which felt worth it at the time.

♥️
One day at a time.

I know how it feels to wait like this. I'm ashamed to say i did very badly at it and cried almost every day at least once. I felt i had to hide it from DH to protect his feelings as well!

Find a good friend to talk to. The boards here kept me sane 💐 There's always someone to chat to 😊

I did private scans at Fetal Medicine Centre in London in between NHS scans as I felt more reassured that all seems to be okay. I had a high risk pregnancy though so even I was extra monitored with NHS, I wanted extra private scans for reassurance.

I understand this too, you’re not alone. Mine is coming up and I feel dread already and no idea how I will get through it (my second pregnancy too). I mentioned it to the midwife who wasn’t very comforting but just factual. Maybe try to not think too far ahead and just focus on the current day by day and how your feeling. It’s easier said than done I know.

Keep busy to pass the time and remember that no amount of worrying will change the outcome of the scan. I worry about every scan after losses but it's ultimately out of our hands.