Hi everyone. I’m sorry if I’m not posting this I’m the correct place I’ve never used this website before. I’m looking for some advice.
I am 30 y/o and 16 weeks pregnant today with my first baby. I’m happily married and knew I wanted to wait to 30 before kids.
I was told on Tuesday following my 14 week bloods that I have a 1-5 chance of our baby having downs. To say I am heartbroken and devastated is an understatement.
Lucky enough after the phone call I was able to go straight to hospital for a harmony test. I’ve done nothing but cry, my husband is very supportive and wants this baby regardless as do I but my heart is broken.
baby wasn’t able to be measured at my 12 week scan ( I was actually 13) as it was moving about so much and nothing was mentioned about any abnormalities, baby looked so active and healthy.
On weds i went for my 16 week private gender scan (we where supposer to have our reveal party this weekend, how cruel) anyway the lady who does the scan also works for the NHS and after seeing how upset i was promised to tell me if she seen anything indicating downs, she didn't and checked everything including heart, spine etc.
I also know now that scans are not accurate. Am i clutching at straws? Ive since watched a lot of content about downs babys on tiktok.
I know i will keep this baby regardless but its just not what i had imaged.
I'd like to hear any advice from others who have been through the same. Thank you