Nuchal 3.6mm at 12 weeks and 39 - any advice

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Just this really. We got pregnant by accident this time and I have two healthy boys already whose nuchal measurements were around 1.4mm. Because of where we live, they need the bloods to come back and confirm high risk before they will refer for NIPT. And NIPT can only be done on Mondays. So we will be in limbo for a few weeks unless I want to go straight to CVS. I was ok yesterday and woke up at 4am in a blind panic. Scared of miscarriage. Scared I won’t be able to parent a child with disabilities. Scared I won’t even make it through the next few weeks. Any advice appreciated!!

also I feel really guilty because with all the panic at the appointment, I didn’t remember to buy a scan photo. So feel like I’m already being unfair to the baby.

There are plenty of examples here with higher nuchal than went on to have low risk from the nipt and the babies were fine.
I know the wait is hard but try to distract yourself.
I would wait with the cvs and only do it if you get a high risk from the nipt, as the nipt can give false positives.
fingers crossed for you

Just for anyone frantically googling as I was a month ago. Bloods came back normal and risk of Down’s syndrome was actually 1:175 so classed as low risk despite me being 39! I did NIPT privately and that all came back as low risk. But I was still extremely anxious so opted for amnio at 16 weeks. Being in the waiting room was worse than the actual procedure by the way. Full results all clear and a scan at 17+ weeks showed no abnormalities with the heart/spine/brain etc. we are only 18 weeks so a ways to go, but things are looking more positive now. Sending love if you are reading this and in a similar situation.

Great news OP, and thanks for the update. I wish you a healthy and event-free rest of your pregnancy

Congrats good news, you had enough stress for a pregnancy, hope you get to relax now x

Final update - baby arrived on Tuesday and he is doing very well. Other than being on the small side, on the 3rd centile, he is perfect. I feel like I can finally breathe again for the first time since the 12 week scan. Wishing anyone who is reading this after experiencing problems at the 12 week scan well - the high nuchal measurement makes for such an anxious pregnancy. There is always hope.

I love him so much 🥰.

Congratulations!! Enjoy your new baby xxx