Struggling with guilt/feeling lose

[LucyChristine]

Found out on my 12 week scan that something was right with the baby after rather scans and test. At a scan at 14 weeks there was no more fluid left and baby had multiple abnormalities such as having no kidneys.
we made the hard Decision to have a medical termination. After saying baby would probably not survive pregnancy or live after birth.
only been a few days and have so much guilt. Our poor babies.
we had multiple miscarriage before but never felt anything like this.
many one else been through this? How do you get on with things?

Meant to say wasn’t right with the baby

Oh @LucyChristine I'm so sorry for your loss, especially after having MCs before.

I've had a termination for similar reasons before, was told that the baby was unlikely to get past 24 weeks gestation.

It was so bloody hard, I really do feel for you.

If it's any consolation I now have 2 DC.

Give yourself a bit of time and seek help if you're struggling

@LucyChristine I had a very similar situation to you earlier this year, found out at 17 weeks that my poor baby had no kidneys.

I'm so so sorry that you are having to go through this dreadful pain. From experience all I can say is that your feelings will change daily at first, and slowly you will start to have days that feel 'normal' (and please don't feel guilt when you do - that's your brain protecting you and giving you breaks from your grief).

I know it can be hard to speak about how you're feeling but if you can I think voicing negative emotions and thoughts can make them so much more manageable, I also had counselling through the nhs so it might be worth finding out if there is anything available for you. Sending lots of love ❤️