@ChoiceMummy thanks for taking the time to share your story.
My partner and I have plans in place to raise a baby/child, and this wasn’t an afterthought by any means. I work long full time hours too, and contribute around the house. Yes, sometimes he does a bit more around the house when I can’t - I would say most women usually do - but our relationship still works. I’ve offered to get a cleaner to help, but he won’t have it. If I worked slightly less hours things would be better for me health-wise, but atm that’s not an option.
He wouldn’t be shouldering the majority of the work and child rearing, or we wouldn’t be having a baby. As a side note, plenty of women do the lion share of housework and child rearing, whilst working alongside their partners. There isn’t a perfect formula for raising a child…and families do what they can given the circumstances.
Of course a child can have a number of issues. A child with severe disabilities (and potentially other issues on top of that) is an entirely different story - that is what I’m getting at. And no, neither of us wants that, not for us, but most importantly and our top consideration is definitely not for our child. I know some people may disagree, but I believe quality of life matters. Being an adult with lots of issues to contend with is quite different to being a child whose parents look after them. It’s real and can be scary and isolating.
In both circumstances you would
need more support, as you would have additional challenges and needs as a family.
Yes, we have options for some fertility treatments; but it’s not to say that they would even work, or would decide to try again if for whatever reason things don’t work out.
@SpringtimeDandelions Thanks for your support.
@Geranium1984 We spoke extensively with the midwife/screening person, and she told us other patients had also expressed dissatisfaction with how NIPT results were presented on the NHS.
After consideration, having another potentially high result via NIPT and awaiting screening results (which can be inaccurate) and then having to do further testing anyway if it is high again, would just cause more undue stress. The amneo is the most reliable diagnostic test, and seems like the best course of action for us atm. We are hoping to get another scan in beforehand to see if anything has improved for baby - fingers crossed.