Uncertain viability

[NewHere789]

Hi everyone, feeling so worried and uncertain and would love some advice. First pregnancy, just had my 12w scan and the sonographer said uncertain viability and booked me for another scan in 1 week. There was a gestational sac and a yolk sac and a 2mm embryo but too small to detect a heartbeat even with a vaginal scan. That size is consistent with 4-6 weeks apparently which doesn’t line up with dates at all. Based on first day of my last period (7 Dec) I should be 12 + 4, but I thought it was more like 10 weeks based on what I thought was date of conception. I sometimes have long cycles but I think the latest poss day we could have conceived is 10th Jan which would mean 9w now. I had a negative blood and urine test on 18th Jan and my positive home tests were on 27th Jan. Trying to figure out how much hope is realistic. Also what do I do with myself for the next week??

Oh and I meant to say, also super confusing because I’ve had more symptoms this last 10 days (mild nausea, tiredness, lots of reflux) but I guess symptoms can continue even if you’ve had a MMC?

It does sound like it could be a missed miscarriage I'm afraid. My first one was detected at a scan at 11 weeks. I too had had some symptoms like mild nausea, bloating and tender breasts. Cruelly symptoms can continue despite the pregnancy not being viable. I was 100% sure of my dates so had another scan the next day to confirm and then had an operation to remove the pregnancy. Sorry you're going through this, I know how disappointing and heartbreaking it is.

Thank you so much. I think I’ve got to wait for the scan next week just because of the very slim chance it’s super early but I’m pretty sure it’s a mmc. I’m really frightened about what will happen this week - if I start bleeding and cramping etc. I’m going to be staying with family as there will be some building work happening at home - how should I prepare? Do I need to take lots of pads and painkillers with me?

Yes, pads and painkillers are a good shout. I didn't bleed much after my d&c but other miscarriages I've had have been like very heavy periods with cramping. Just to warn you, I found it incredibly upsetting seeing the blood when I began bleeding, it really cemented that things were over and I just cried and cried. I hope you have lots of loving support, make sure you lean on everyone around you and let them comfort and support you.