Hi all,
Before I start I want to say that my intention is absolutely not to upset anyone, and I'm also feeling quite fragile so please go easy on me.
I am a carrier of severe haemophilia A. My husband and I discussed at length what we would do if we became pregnant with a boy with haemophilia, and had pre-conception counselling too so we knew all the facts. We decided that we would not continue the pregnancy if that were the case. This is due to having witnessed other members of our families living with chronic health conditions that have made their lives really hard. We know that treatments have improved for some, but there are no guarantees that they work for all and we don't want our child to suffer.
Last year we had two chemical pregnancies which were really tough, then right at the end of the year found out we were pregnant. While we were pleased that the lines were stronger, we've still been pretty anxious due to the odds of having a boy with haemophilia coupled with the previous miscarriages.
We found out that we are having a boy. Our odds have now increased to 50/50 that we could have a child with haemophilia and waiting to find out is agony.
I am now 13 weeks and we went this week for a CVS, however they were unable to perform the test due to the position of my uterus. I am to go back next week so they can try again but they were clear there is no guarantee it will work. The next option is an amniocentesis test at 15 weeks.
The doctor also said that the results could take 4-5 weeks to come back. We were initially told by several doctors it would be 2 weeks. I'm hoping she is wrong (she's going to check with the lab) but it sent us reeling.
We have a real possibility of not knowing whether we will be keeping this (much longed for) baby for pretty much the first half of the pregnancy.
I would appreciate hearing from people who have been in similar situations and understanding how you coped with a situation like this. I am considering asking to reduce my hours at work for a little bit as am really struggling to focus and find time to look after myself. Have others found this helpful? What about exercise and meditation etc? Any tips would be so gratefully received.
Thank you.