Fetal abnormalities at 13 weeks - looking for reassurance 😥

[Brooklily]

I am currently pregnant with a much wanted and long tried for baby. I had my first scan today at 13+3. They identified 2 potential abnormalities - megacystis (abnormally enlarged bladder) and exomphalos (where the abdominal wall has not formed correctly and the part of the bowel may be outside the body). Both on their own can be indicators of chromasonal abnormalities. They can also both spontaneously resolve. I have been booked in for another scan in two weeks to see how things are developing. If they are both still evident I have been recommended to have amniocentesis to confirm any chromasonal syndromes.
I am beside myself. I can't stop thinking worst case scenarios and I don't know how I'm going to make it through the next two weeks.
Has anyone else been through anything like this? I feel clueless and alone.

I'm so sorry to read your story. It's not quite the same as my TFMR but I delivered our little one at 16 weeks last yr. Please PM if I can be of any help. xx

I’m so so sorry to read this 💔 absolutely devastated for you but you sound incredibly strong and like you have a great support network. I hope you’re ok xx

Our son was born asleep two nights ago. We had a wonderful midwife and we spent three hours with him making memories before we had to say our final goodbyes.
To leave hospital with a memory box instead of a baby is the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
We are trying to take each day as it comes and focus on our beautiful two year old daughter.
Thank you everyone for your kindness 💙

I'm sorry for your loss @Brooklily. It's difficult but it will get easier with time. We're always here if you want to talk.

@Brooklily I'm so sorry.

I lost my little boy Evan in 2018 due to abnormalities at 24w.

You are so right, it is so hard to walk out that door.

I hope you find peace knowing you made the right decision for your little one.

ARC, Aching Arms and 4Louis are all fantastic charities and you will find a lovely community of loss mamas for care and support ❤

There's a great facebook support group with very nice parents who can give you some support and information

@BabyPotato Thank you - it helps to know others have got through this.

@Suzy39 I'm so sorry for your loss. We named our little boy Max. I have already reached out to ARC and our local hospital bereavement midwifery team are amazing. We are having a home visit tomorrow. I think right now I just need some guidance.

@Carriemac thank you for your advice. I have deactivated my Facebook account for now as too many of friends are expecting soon or have just announced pregnancies and it's too hard, but I will look them up when I feel I can go back.

What a lovely name 😊

I think in the early days you just don't know what to think or feel or ask. I had a lot of offers but didn't know what I needed. With hindsight, it was to talk about the whole process and try and make sense of it.

Hope your home visit is positive and you get something out of it.