Results from NT test 4.7mm

[Festivemovie]

Hello after 9 miscarriages I am pregnant with baby number 10. I am 43 and we where shocked to find out at 12 week scan two weeks ago our NT measurement was 4.7mm we went to fetal assessment unit last week in manchester to be rescanned and consultant said baby has a 10% chance of survival. Baby has a cystic hygroma now of 6.9mm and skin edemas. Next wednesday we will be rescanned and have the amnio I am still awaiting the results of nipt. I know 10% is a very small chance but has anyone on here gone on for baby to be okay after being diagnosed with these things? The consultant has now discussed tfmr and I am not in a good place and tearing myself to pieces. Has anyone had tfmr at 43 and actually gone on later to have a healthy baby. I'm not even sure if this is the right place to post but I am beside myself with upset right bow can anyone help me with advice or to put things in perspective. I am now 14 plus 3 thank you mel xx

This is such devestating news, I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to both of you. I think all your emotions are completely valid. I get the anger, there's no reason this has happened and that makes it hard to make sense of it.
I hope you are supported and manage to take all the time you need to recover from this. Virtual hugs 💐 x

❤ thank you usplusone. Its exhausting isnt it I wish I could go to sleep for a week xx

I am through the worst now. To avoid travelling I had to take control myself which was hard but I was in hospital so it’s been ok. How are you

Hello @corkviadublin how are u doing x I hope you are okay and getting support from ur hubby and getting looked after.
I had my termination yesterday so my apologies for delay in responding back and after weeks of being on an emotional rollercoaster I felt a somewhat sense of relief last night that I was through the worst although I found the procedure itself well the hour before quite overwhelming. I'm more emotional tonight and feel sad and upset again when I kind of thought I was feeling much stronger. I guess I will be on the emotional rollercoaster for longer yet. Hope you are doing okay thinking of you xx

Hey @Festivemovie I’m feeling ok today.
I felt awful in hospital not being able to tel the doctors what I had taken and watching them scramble to figure out what was wrong. My doctor eventually did a manual exam and noticed my cervix was opening. From then it was fine because they knew I was going to miscarry and they gave me really strong pethadine so my pain was low. I had to keep taking the tablets when they left the room but with my covid mask on they didn’t notice the pills.
Now that I’m out of hospital I find that I really miss my consultant. I want to be in constant contact with her. 😂 I need to get a grip

Oh @corkviadublin my heart goes out to you.. as if it wasnt tough enough for us you have to deal with all that too ! When I came out of the clinic their where loads of protestors there and where shouting repent ! And they would pray for me etc and some where chanting scriptures and prayers. My other half was ready to kill someone. I cant wait for today to be over it's been a very tough and emotional night tonight x

Oh I'm so sorry both of you have been through this. @corkviadublin I've read your other thread, you are very brave, I'm glad you managed to have some control over the situation. @festivemovie I can't believe people still actually do that I hope you could ignore them as much as possible, they don't know what you've been through.
I hope you both have time to recover and the future brings you less difficult times. I'll be thinking of you both. I may still find myself in the same situation and I'm grateful to have been able to share this journey xx