Hi OP
Really sorry to hear this - it is devastating news, especially so late in pregnancy.
Our first child was also diagnosed with Patau's at 21 weeks and it was an awful experience - I was showing and everyone knew. We were really low risk at all the 12 week scan & tests. (It was a big teaching & research hospital and there were staff who clearly felt it should have been picked up at 12 weeks)
We had a termination (an easy decision as we were told he wouldn't survive outside the womb and I would most likely miscarry) and I had to actually give birth. It was so sad and I feared he might have been my only chance.
However we did conceive again and became part of the research study that has meant the harmony test will now be offered on the NHS. That test confirmed our second baby was fine and is very accurate. I sobbed through my 20 week scan after the trauma of the last one but it was all fine. I now have a gorgeous 5 year old.
We went on to have another child and everything was fine too - we paid for the harmony test with that one and it was wonderful to get the results.
Because of my age with my subsequent pregnancies (over 35) and the previous Patau's our risk factors were set really high by the NHS and if it hadn't been for the Harmony tests it would have been worrying, but it meant we didn't have to risk an amnio.
Anyway, the main thing is to reassure you - we had a happy ending and there is every chance you will - Patau's is usually just bad luck. I thoroughly recommend getting the harmony test as it carries no risk to the baby and can be done fairly early so you shouldn't have to go through anything like this again 