Medical termination Information please

[Leggy123]

Could any one Tell me what to expect when having a medical termination
We found out on Monday that baby had died I would of been 15 weeks so it’s impossible to say how pregnant I am as baby was alive at 13 weeks.
Is the whole process as awful as I’m imagining?
I’ve already had 2 children neither with pain relief so am hoping I will cope with this too

I am so sorry for your loss.
Technically what you are now facing is not a termination but is what is known as medical management of miscarriage, because baby had already died. The process however is the same.
I am assuming you are in the UK? Generally you will be given 2 tablets which initiate the process but “switching off” the pregnancy hormones. These are taken by mouth. Few side effects, but can give you a bit of diarrhoea and nausea. You then are likely to be admitted to hospital 2 days later, usually for 12-24 hours. On arrival you will be given 4 tablets into the vagina, high up by the cervix, then 2 tablets by mouth ever 3 hours until baby comes. They gradually get the cervix to open up. You will feel some cramping, like period pain. Usually less painful than normal labour, as baby is very small, but it is so different as you haven’t got the positive outcome to look forward to. You can have lots of pain killers if you need them, but you may not need any. Just do what is right for you.
When baby comes, you do not need to “push”. Baby will just come.
There is very useful info on www.arc-uk.org
There should be a midwife/nurse around to support you, depending where you are cared for. They will talk to you about options for memory making and your choices regarding a funeral etc,
SANDS uk - stillbirth & neonatal death society are very good for support & information.
Is that the information you needed?
Hope the process goes smoothly for you.

So sorry you are going through this.

I had a tfmr at 18 weeks. Process was as described above. I also already had 2 living children. For me the pain was minimal - mild cramping then waters broke and the baby delivered instantly.

Thank you
Both so much. That has made me feel better.
I already had the first tablet yesterday so going in tomorrow to start the rest off. X

I hope tomorrow goes as well.as possible.

It might be worth having a think about if you want to see the baby, choose a name etc. Everyone's different, but it was helpful for us. The midwife should give you information about what to expect, how baby might look etc. They may be able to take footprints and photos even if you don't want to see the baby.

Thinking of you tomorrow.

@SylvanianFrenemies thank you xxx

Thank you for all your kind words yesterday
Rupert fox was born at 13:50 today it wasn't too bad at all
we have just had him
blessed xx

What a lovely wee name.
We found the blessing very comforting, I hope you did too, and that there have been some good moments amongst the pain.

It gets better in time.

I'm so sorry to hear of what you've been through @Leggy123. A really beautiful name for your little boy. Thinking of you xxx

Sending love to you I am glad to hear that things went smoothly and that Rupert has received a blessing so promptly. His memory will live on xx