16 weeks told boy, 21 weeks told girl. Who to believe?

[gabrielle1201]

Hello everyone, I went to a private scan at 16 weeks and told boy. I was so excited and nervous because I didn’t want to believe it for my hopes to be given up (I have two girls at home so a little boy would have been a change). We didn’t buy anything big but we did a big gender reveal and told family and close friends.

Before my 20 week scan (happened at 21 weeks) I just had this feeling that it’s too good to be true that I’m finally having a boy and low and behold they tell me they think it is a girl. I went home and had a good old cry almost mourning the fact I had a ‘son’ for 4 weeks and now I’m going to have to bond with a new baby almost.

We went to the private scan place for a second opinion and they said they think it’s a girl but I’m not really convinced. I Duno if it’s because I was told a boy and now I’m just in denial or if it’s the fact that I am just hoping some how it changes.

Just would like any advice if you too have been in a similar situation and how it turned out. I’ll provide pictures of the before boy and the now girl to see what you all think.

Picture 1: 16 week scan.

Picture 2-3: 21 week scan.

Many thanks!

take a silver or gold ring, and tie a bit of cotton to it, to make a pendulum.

Hold the pendulum over your bump. and say 'ring ring please tell me if i am having a boy or a girl. Straight lines for a boy, circles for a girl'.

Hold your hand as still as possible.

if you are having a boy, it will swing back and forth in straight lines, if a girl, it will make little circles.

This isnt as nutty as it sounds.

I’ll give that a go! Lol and I’ll get back to you!

Oh I’d totally disregard the two sonographers and go with the ring thing hun. Your bubs your rules.

you dont believe about the ring and string?

trust me it works. There is nothing 'woo' about it.

You should go with the most recent scan, obviously. Go get another private one if you want to make sure. Dangling a bit of hooped metal on a string is just as mad, and just as dumb, as it sounds!

How does it work, Four? Please do explain! I could do with a laugh.

Got both lol twins haha

ha ha ! that is what happened to me and I WAS having twins...

HOnestly BossWitch, just as I said. HOld your hand as still as poss. It has to be you holding the thread, nobody else.

I went home and had a good old cry almost mourning the fact I had a ‘son’ for 4 weeks and now I’m going to have to bond with a new baby almost.

How absolutely awful for you, having to bond with a healthy baby.

The scan doensr convince me. I am consultant lead so I will just keep asking I suppose.

I think it’s a girl. I believe the way of seeing it is- if the between the legs shot looks like a hamburger it’s a girl and if it looks like a turtle it’s a boy.

Looks like a girl to me but I'd say the later scan would be more accurate anyway. Having said that I know two people who had the opposite of what they were told at 20 weeks so it's not a guaranteed prediction anyway.

Purple daisies - I thought I was having a son and bonded with a baby I thought was a boy. It’s not a crime to cry for something you felt you had and now lost. Get a heart fs

I get extra scans due to medical issues.
We were told at 20 and 24 weeks that it was a girl. However he's most definitely and very obviously male. Seems he'd been rummaging up to that point.
I wouldn't go 100% with the scan until much later tbh.

I had the same happen at 14 weeks and 20 weeks. The first sonographer said it was too early at 14 weeks to know for sure so I treated it as a guidance. At 20 weeks, our boy was a girl.

I didn't mind either way as I never "bought into" a boy.

It's just an interesting story for your DD when she grows up (minus the bit about the tears of course!).

Of course interpreting the hanging bit of metal on a string isn't at all "woo". It's pure science. And it works just the same whether the ring is gold or platinum or silver, because all metals have the exact same properties. Also the baby's genitals broadcast special signals that the ring responds to. Fact.

Ultrasounding of anatomy, on the other hand, is totally unreliable, which is why it can't be used to visualise the bloodflow through a minute heart in such detail that heart conditions can be picked up long before birth. Amirite?

OP, it's almost certainly a girl. You have 2 opinions to one and late scans are more accurate. This is why "gender reveals", especially at 16 weeks, are a bad idea.

I mean obviously when she/he is born that’s all the proof you need but I think it’s possbly leaning towards a girl anyways but just annoying hopes were given up when they initially told me boy.

As a midwife the ring thing is ridiculous, has no scientific reasoning and is purely coincidental if it gets it right, there's a 50/50 chance after all. You could flip a coin and say heads is girl, tails is boy and it would be right some of the time.

The scan at 21 weeks is likely to be the more accurate one as that's the detailed anomaly scan. You could always have another scan at the private clinic, I believe some will rescan for free if the later gender is different to what they gave, and double check. No scan will ever be 100% accurate for predicting gender though.

And to add, I'm not a qualified sonographer so this is my opinion only based on previous scans I have seen but picture 1 of the 16 week scan looks like a girl to me, not sure what made them say boy.

I think all three scans look like a girl

From the later scans it certainly looks like a girl, I'd have no doubt. I can't work out what's going on in the 16 week scan tbh, not a very good view.

The picture of the latest scan is identical to my girls scan I'm afraid

hi what did you have boy or girl

ive just had a scan like your first and the lady was unsure at 1st now im confused

What did the baby end up being?