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Continuing a Pregnancy with a lethal diagnosis

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TheDisillusionedAnarchist · 11/06/2015 20:02

I am 23 weeks pregnant and sadly it was confirmed yesterday that our baby has Edwards' syndrome (trisomy 18). We had already known that he or she had a very complex cardiac defect, a small brain anomaly and a possible diaphragmatic hernia so we had partly anticipated this.

We both are committed to continuing the pregnancy, termination just doesn't feel like the right option for us, though I can completely understand how it does for many people. I wondered if there were others out there who had or are continuing a pregnancy with a lethal diagnosis and how they are handling people's questions and ideas about birth plans when you are not sure if the baby will be born alive or not and how long it may live.

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duckyneedsaclean · 02/01/2016 17:24

I'm glad you had the time with her that you did, op. A beautiful little girl.

Wish you strength for the time ahead x

RedKites · 05/01/2016 17:42

So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and your beautiful baby Rumer. Flowers

BarbarianMum · 05/01/2016 21:28

I am so sorry Flowers

ShowOfHands · 05/01/2016 21:43

Wow. What a lifetime of love packed into too little a time. What a wonderful and brave Mum Rumer made when she was born.

I wish so much it wasn't this way. I'm so sorry.

5BlueHydrangea · 05/01/2016 21:59

So sorry to hear your sad news. I think it is lovely how you felt able to continue with your pregnancy knowing of Rumers potential problems, and how wonderful you were able to have this special time with her. It must have been so precious to you. I'm sure your story will provide hope and encouragement to others in a similar position.
God bless your little angel, and you too brave Mummy.

NeitherQuietNorCalm · 06/01/2016 20:04

I'm so sorry, DA. I'm glad she got to spend her life with your love and touch, and you her.

BestIsWest · 17/01/2016 00:36

You are amazing.

JoMalones · 23/01/2016 00:18

I'm so glad you got to spend time with your beautiful daughter. Your strength in all your posts is inspiring. I hope you and your family have support at this time. Thinking of you Thanks

Dontyouopenthattrapdoor · 10/02/2016 22:58

I only just saw this, I had followed your thread. I'm so very sorry. She was beautiful and so very loved. And you are everything that is amazing about humanity. Much love to you.

TheDisillusionedAnarchist · 29/02/2016 21:43

Don't know if it's okay to put here and please remove if not but we have started a blog about our experiences with Rumer and to disseminate trisomy 18 info. www.facebook.com/rumersrainbow

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