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NT results of 1 in 5. I need positive stories here please.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 11/09/2013 14:47

All calm has departed.

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TelephoneTree · 01/10/2013 23:12

That's what our DS had. GOSH for surgery? Ours had complications and it was just a 2 week blip from start to finish. There was one girl in who was discharged 2 days later. Did you find out if it's a boy or girl??

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 01/10/2013 23:37

I have the choice of GOSH and UCHL.
The midwife we spoke to works with both cardiac teams, she suggested GOSH. Im just a tiny bit unreasonable about GOSH over an incident when DD was small. I have to get over it, they do a VERY good job.
No gender yet. I asked the sonographer to look, she didn't bother, (I was watching intently) and then told me it was too early to tell. 17 weeks
She was able to enlarge the teeny weeny heart to fill the whole screen but couldn't see the boy/girl parts?? Hmm
I have to wait another week for the full CVS results to come back to find out...

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TelephoneTree · 02/10/2013 09:42

Oh no that was a bit mean of her! Maybe she's just not allowed to for some reason.

How are you feeling about it all?

DS's heart is in Olympic condition and his repair was 'brilliant'. He will be monitored for years yet - the health care we get in the UK is amazing really.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 02/10/2013 09:58

Im actually doing ok.
Im sad because I didn't sign up for DS, selfish but then I did sign up for a baby, and that is still what I am getting. Im afraid, but only of the unknown. I know we will cope. Its just different.
I need to get through to DP though.

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TelephoneTree · 02/10/2013 14:35

The unknown is scary.

I don't know if it's helpful but we still have family holidays: have flown to the States, Italy and France, eat out as a family once a week, have gone to a pantomime altogether, go to outside events and days out. We just carry on as normal!

He does need extra support but that means things like along with talking normally to him we use makaton signs while we talk / teach him a new word, concept or colour to make it easier for him to remember it. We also need to feed him when he's given up feeding himself to make sure he's had enough to eat (but then you do that with smalls anyway but with DS it's just been for longer that's all), he took longer to walk so we had to carry him and then hold his hand for longer etc etc

On a positive note - children with DS are a whizz at learning things visually and at 15 months he was able to correctly pick his name out when given a choice of 2 or 3 laminated name cards. He's 2.5 now and can read the letters a, b, h, m, b, j and s and make the sounds and correct makaton sign for each of them. That's more than I could do when I started school at aged 4.5!

TelephoneTree · 02/10/2013 14:38

...and behaviour wise, he's brilliant. We are really firm with all the kids though and it has paid off. He understands almost everything we say to him, he puts his clothes in the laundry without being asked to, puts his shoes away, will throw stuff in the bin or recycling on request, LOVES playing with his siblings and is altogether great company. People do assume he understands very little and talk to him like a baby but after they've spent a bit of time with him they soon realise what's what!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 02/10/2013 16:09

Your DS sounds lovely. I really need to get DP to read these threads.

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CrispyFB · 02/10/2013 16:17

It's good to hear from you! Sorry to hear you didn't find out the sex (grrr! is that not a part of the FISH results?) but I'm glad the cardiologist thinks things look really good.

You have an absolutely fantastic attitude and your little baby is so lucky to have you.

Loving hearing about other people's children too! Grin Definitely get your DP to read these threads. It's the unknown that is the most terrifying.

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 07/10/2013 12:05

Its a girl! Grin

lostlove · 07/10/2013 13:23

Congratulations, Saggy Flowers

TelephoneTree · 07/10/2013 22:45

That is very very exciting - congratulations!!!!!

nevergoogle · 07/10/2013 23:05

congratulations saggy. Smile

CrispyFB · 08/10/2013 15:45

Awwwww!! Congratulations on your little girl!! Grin

Hippymama · 11/10/2013 17:50

Congratulations Saggy :)

Northernlurker · 11/10/2013 17:57

Congratulations on having a girl. Girls are excellent Smile

Regarding the heart issue - I came across a news article recently reporting what amazing progress has been made in the last two decades in paediatric heart surgery and treatment of congenital defects. The situation is so much better now than it was only a few years ago. There is a whole generation of CHD children growing up healthily who would have strugggled just a few years earlier. So the medical team will have a plan for your daughter and they'll crack on with that brilliantly as and when needed and it really will be ok. All the best for the rest of the pregnancy Smile

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 11/10/2013 22:31

Thanks. Smile
I was really surprised by the cardiologists take on it. He drew me a diagram of a normal heart, then a diagram of DDs heart. I was a bit Shock bit he was all: "Dont panic. We can fix this. We will patch this and mend that, 95% sucess rate, excellent outlook" like he was going to put a new exhaust on my car! Confused
Obviously Im worried, but he was so blasé, it definitely helps!

nevergoogle · 11/10/2013 22:45

That's great news Saggy. A lovely confident cardiologist.

Northernlurker · 11/10/2013 23:08

That sounds excellent. Did he give you any idea when they would put the new exhaust in? Does it get done when she's very new?

Northernlurker · 11/10/2013 23:11

This is a good website and charity for parents of children affected by heart defects.

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 11/10/2013 23:19

between 3 and 6 months. we build her up as much as possible. Then at the point when she stops doing ok we whizz her off back to the main dealer and get thw work done. Wink

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 11/10/2013 23:22

thanks, ill take a look at that link when work is quiet tomorrow.

BigGlasses · 17/10/2013 11:17

Just read a lovely article on the bbc website about a blog written about Rosie, a little girl with downs. It made me think of you and wonder how you are getting on. I hope things are going well and that you and your DP are coming to terms with the news.
Congratulations on your pregnancy, and although I have no experience of downs syndrome, if it helps, I think if I was in your position I would make the same decisions you have.

SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten · 17/10/2013 21:58

That's a lovely blog. Ive sent it to DP to read. x

loismustdieatyahoodotcom · 23/10/2013 18:28

Hi saggy, don't know if this helps but I had a high DS risk in my pregnancy because if a heart defect, two big ones actually and smaller ones. I didn't have the amino because I would have made the same decision you have.

If it helps he has had two heart surgery so far and is now a healthy boy, it turns out he didn't have Down syndrome but I would have loved him regardless. Although they Are testing for genetic syndromes at the mo, makes no difference to me he's lovely happy and healthy and that's all that matters.

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