as others have said the way the odds are calculated, factors in your age. so basically your risk of 1:35 is the same as a younger woman getting 1:300 or whatever, so it's kind of misleading, but reflects the fact that at 43 pregnancy is quite risky in terms of defective eggs,and it justifies giving all mums that age invasive testing.
if you do a bit more googling, you will see that the single biggest indicator of chromosomal problems is the NT, and that the hormones can often be out of whack for other reasons, and it is very rare to have a child with downs with a NT of 1.4mm (not impossible, just unlikely).
if its any consolation, having had a previous down's pregnancy (NT 5.0mm at 11 +4), i decided with my son, that i would not have the blood test unless the NT was over 2.0mm, i just did not want to go through all that awful waiting and worrying again. the NT was 1.6 I think, and my perfect son is now 6 months old.
i think the risks linked with CVS and amnio are very much linked to who undertakes the procedure and how experienced they are, i had a consultant who did a lot of these at a london teaching hospital and she was able to tell me after doing the procedure that it had been incredibly straightforward and extremely unlikely to cause a miscarriage; even though i did end up having a termination.
i hope everything is ok in your case, im sure it is. xxx