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PloddingOnOn · 17/10/2011 12:22

I had a myomectomy surgery for fibroids in November 2008 at the age of 27.
I am 29 years old and getting married in November. We are hoping to fall pregnant soon.

I am TERRIFIED of natural birth - from the myomectomy (the scar is about 15cm long) and from a psychological perspective. I have never wanted to give natural birth - aside from years of sexual abuse, the thought of it literally terrifies me in all aspects.

Any advice? This is a terrible fear for me - I would actually not have a child if I were forced to give natural birth. What are the chances that I could choose a caesarian birth?

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schmee · 18/10/2011 20:49

Catsareevil - I think a lot of people, including those in the medical profession, dismiss tokophobia and lump it in with the natural anxiety that most women probably feel about natural childbirth. The OP has said that she has been sexually abused in the past which often leads to tokophobia.

It's a really really serious condition and is not something that just disappears when the pregnancy hormones kick in.

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pARGHssTheTwiglets · 18/10/2011 20:57

I have tokophobia and I requested an elective C-section and was given one. Do all your research into your legal rights and go armed with evidence to your consultant and keep on and on and on. The first reaction you will get from medical people is a very patronising "oh, everybody's nervous dear" but you need to get them to take you seriously and if you can do that then I can't see why they would refuse you. If a consultant refused to give you a csection then s/he is obliged to refer you to another consultant for a second opinion. Good luck!

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pARGHssTheTwiglets · 18/10/2011 20:58

Oh and please don't worry about the idea of having internals during pregnancy - you can refuse them.

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catsareevil · 18/10/2011 21:07

schmee - that may be your opinion. But please dont leap onto my posts and assume that I am responsible for that. The post that you seem to have taken exception to was my 4th one on this thread, and the first 3 solely dealt with the practicalities of obtaining a CS, so hardly dismissive of her wish.

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PloddingOnOn · 19/10/2011 07:44

A natural birth is always a consideration. They may not allow me to have a natural birth anyway

I just need to ensure that if the need arises, I have a choice.

My body - my choice. Kind of thing.

I did consider a water birth for a couple months but the long term "effects" of natural birth concern me more than the effects of a c-section.

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glimmer · 25/10/2011 09:16

I think you are doing the right thing. Get as much information as you need and find out what's right for you. With the myomectomy it sounds that they might suggest a Ceasarian anyway?! But it is good to work on your fears as well and get counselling. Always a good idea.

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PloddingOnOn · 28/10/2011 15:08

Yep that's the general feeling of things. I don't rush into anything without doing so much research, my OH thinks he is a test tube.

He supports c-section though and is happy to pay for it if the need arises.

Thanks for your feedback though!

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hooleyh · 23/09/2012 16:49

Please help I am in the same situation and don't have a clue how to go about it all. Regards h