High NT measurement of 7.4mm at 12+5

[katyfi]

My experience is not a good one. I am 36 and we went for our first dating scan on the 19th Sept - 11 weeks and 2 days so too soon for nt measurement. Returned on the 29th sept -12+5 to have a NT measurement of 7.4mm. This gengerated an instant referral to the regional fetal unit at LGI. We went for this on Wed 3rd oct and had both internal and external scan. We had prepared for the worst results from the CVS test but this was not done as a heatbeat was not found. We were not prepared for this as the heartbeat was strong less than a week before.
I have taken dose of Mifepristone and there is a bed for me in the hospital tomorrow. I need to go through a L&D for a "missed miscarrage" at the local care path dictates.
The hospitals have been fantastic during this traumatic time. I have not yet experienced any pain or bleeding yet. I am not sure what to expect tomorrow so am frightened and worried.
I will relay my experience next week

Hi Katy. I'm so sorry to hear your about your baby. I really feel for you and am sending you lots of hugs. I was in your position in August as our little girl had fatal Turner's syndrome. We had a medical termination at just over 16 weeks.

I know that it is a horrible place to be but trust me that you have actually got through the worst bit in all of this. Tomorrow won't be nice but they will give you lots of painkillers, eg morphine, so you can manage the pain and once the tablets have taken effect, then it all happens really quickly. There will be a few hours until the tablets start working so make sure you take something to read or watch and lots of chocolate and nice food to keep tour spirits up.

Make sure that you look after yourself in the days following. Have lots of nice treats, trashy mags and good films to watch.

Good luck with everything. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow but do post and ask any questions you want no matter how personal as I'm more than happy to help in anyway I can.

xxxxxx

oh love - I'm really sorry. Will you have someone with you tomorrow?

Thanks for the support. I have been and bought mags chocolate etc. Thanks for the tips.
My boyfriend will be staying with me.
Nothing seems to have happened yet tho. It gave us the opportunity to clean the house so we will be retuning to nice and calm.
Thanks again xx

So sorry to hear about your baby katy.
I'm thinking of you.

hey katy, i just wanted to say i'm so sorry that you are going through this - you must have been on a complete emotional rollercoaster these past few weeks. i completely echo endo with the trashy mags and lots of chocolate - and i'm glad that you have a lot of RL support from your boyfriend.

we terminated our pregnancy back in march - she was diagnosed with T21 (following a 7.4mm nuchal measurement), plus she had cardio problems and a large cystic hygroma which made her outlook very very bleak.

i do hope that today has gone as calmly as possible, and that you are doing you ok. i'm sorry i didn't post sooner, but please know i've been thinking about you today xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi . Just a quick post to see how you're doing. I'm hoping you are safely back home and as ok as you can be. I've been sending you good vibes all day (and virtual chocolate).

xxxxxxx

All over now. Will post in detail tomorrow. Thanks for support xx

Hi Katy. How are you doing? I hope that you're being taken care of and managing to get some rest. Am thinking of you at this difficult time.

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Hello ladies
Thanks for the tips and support. I hope everybody is coping etc.
I stopped bleeding reasonably quickly. We had a burrial last Monday and felt very emotional from Wed (perhaps a delayed reaction).
I have had many conversations with friends etc - it seems to be all that fills my mind. I feel i may have turned a corner (one of many) in the last couple of days.
My plan is to meet some of the guys from work out of work have tell them what has happened prior to my return to work. I think if i do this i will be able to return with a clearer head.
I can now understand how time starts to heal. We are still waiting for the PM results - so that is the next step. I will let you know how that turns out.

Katy

Hi katy. It's so lovely to hear from you. I'm really glad that you're doing ok(ish). I also found that once we'd had the funeral, I was able to move on a little bit as I felt like I had said a proper goodbye.

I meant to point you towards the thread below earlier so I'm really sorry that I didn't. There are lots of us on there that have been in a similar situation to you and are always there if you need support or a rant or just to chat. I've found it amazingly helpful over the last couple of months.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/1214853-Antenatal-support-thread-for-women-who-have-chosen-to-terminate-7

Tons of love xxxxxx

Update - been back at work 4 weeks everything still hard but coping.
Got results back app on the 16th with consultant.
Told over the phone 1:2 combined for Ds so that's what I'm expecting. Will update again then.

Been for appointment today. Baby was a girl had downs. Nothing amiss with me or dp. Feel much better knowing it wasn't unknown reason for Mmc.
Time to get busy