I want termination & my partner does not

[unmaternal]

I have no desire to have a baby, my partner does. I am about 12 weeks into an unplanned pregnancy so am running out of time. I am absolutely miserable and hating every second of being pregnant and hating even more the thought of a baby at the end of it. I was hoping that it would all come to an end naturally but it doesn't look like that's going to happen now. I also live in a country where abortion is illegal, which makes things even more awkward. I feel like I have to make a choice between having baby and staying with partner or having abortion and the end of relationship. (we have been together 10 years so it's pretty huge). Has anyone else been in this situation before - what happened?

Anyone got any advice?

You both need to decide and fast. Why have you waited until 12 weeks hoping it would end naturally? You both need to sit down and talk this out and come to a decision you and your partner can live with, whether that means staying together and having the baby or not having the baby and splitting up. Is your partner making you choose or is this how you think your relationship will end up?

Presume youre in ireland?
You can still call UK centre helplines, try them, theyre all unbiased, but you will need to move fast, v few places will happliy do any procedures past 12 weeks

If you are in Ireland you can contact the Abortion Support Network for help & advice. I'm sure there is a more delicate way of putting this... but the longer you wait the more expensive the procedure becomes...

Bump

Why not look into adoption? There are thousands of couples out there who would absolutely love to have a child, and your partner might find it easier to cope with adoption rather than abortion.

I agree with jobrien1980.