Hi Cremegg
I hadn't heard of this until I had the same experience as you at my 20 week anomaly scan. It's so hard to hear that your baby wouldn't be able to survive as wouldn't develop lungs, and I am very sorry that you too lost your baby to this fatal condition.
I hesitate to tell my whole story as it is shocking, but prior to losing that baby, I also lost a baby to a completely different condition - a fatal chromosomal disorder - at 13 weeks gestation. Consultants were sure the two babies conditions were not at all linked. I am less sure, although my hunch has no medical grounding.
Anyway, on a much more positive note, I also have two very healthy DDs, one born before I lost the 2 babies and the youngest born nearly a year ago, after I lost the two babies. Despite there being nothing to suggest that either of the two conditions my babies had had would recur in the latest pregnancy, I had lots of scanning. I was seen in foetal medicine and had nuchal/combined test at 12 weeks, then a specific kidney scan at 14 weeks, as consultant thought we would be able to detect problems around then, then the anomaly scan early at 19 weeks, then 4-weekly from then on, and all was fine.
In general, I gather, from extensive research, renal agenesis does not recur and you should conceive a healthy baby next time around. Knowing that doesn't really make it any easier though; pregnancy just becomes so horribly scary. But you will be monitored.
Finally I just want to say there is a support thread for women who have terminated for abnormalities, which is in this part of the board (no time to link), so do join us as it helps to talk about it with people who get it.
And for now, be as kind as you can to yourself, and allow yourself to grieve and heal as you feel works best. Good luck.