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Antenatal tests

NT measuring 9mm. Am numb

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mewbilly · 19/10/2010 17:09

Hi,
I have just returned from my dating scan (11 weeks 1 day) and discovered that the Nuchal Fold is 9mm. I am aware that this is VERY HIGH and the consultant explained that the normal range is around 2-3mm.
The sonographer also found a lot of fluid around the head - noted on my notes as "an oedema surrounding the fetus".
We have an appointment with the Fetal Medical Clinic booked for first thing Friday morning when they will do another scan and perform CVS.
I didn't have any bloods taken, and in fact forgot to ask as I was so upset having to take all of this information in.
The consultant did explain that the chances of downs was very high but that they would also be checking for further chromosomal abnormalities on Friday.
I am utterly devastated and in shock.
Am I right in thinking that there is only really one likely outcome here, ie. termination?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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NothereisnobodylurkingbehindU · 28/10/2010 10:51

Sorry to read your news. It must be very hard for you both Take care of each other

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mowmi · 28/10/2010 16:04

I'm so sorry to read your update. It's so sad and you must be in pieces. Look after and be kind to yourselves x

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GreenStinkingStumpSleeves · 28/10/2010 16:06

I'm so sorry about your baby

It must have been horrendous for you. I hope you can start to heal and I hope you have lots of RL love and support x

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ErinH · 28/10/2010 19:41

I am so sorry to hear this. As you say, so much can happen in a week, it's hard to believe you can go through so much in so little time. But the rollercoaster is over now and the healing can begin. Look after yourself and take comfort in your dd. My thoughts are with you. xx

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Crazycatlady · 28/10/2010 21:20

mewbilly I'm so sorry to hear this. I have been where you are and the heartache is all consuming, but I also recognise the sense of relief once the physical trauma is over.

There are support threads on here for women who have been through similar circumstances so if you feel like talking on here or on those threads there are some lovely ladies who will understand exactly where you are coming from. I remember just reading them was comforting sometimes xx

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manitz · 30/10/2010 22:15

Hi Mewbilly, i'm so sorry it was bad news. I also felt some relief following the termination which is unexpected. I hope you are taking it easy. x

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rushingrachel · 02/11/2010 08:49

Mewbilly, just read your news and so sorry to hear what happened. I empathise with the feeling that you were just relieved to have made a decision. I felt that way too. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but nobody can do that.

Take your time and try to grieve properly. I say this because I didn't - I rushed back into life and pretended it hadn't happened. Didn't talk about it and didn't let it in. Then months later I found myself in a heap of self blame and devestation and people found it harder to understand because it was a while back and everyone thought I'd coped well. Everyone deals with things differently but take all the emotional support you can get.

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peelprincess · 02/11/2010 13:40

Hi Mewbilly, just read the post and my thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself xxx