Can I have a bit of hand-holding for the waiting?

[jeffily]

Hello all

I know everyone who comes here has been through hard times, your kind words on my other thread made a lot of difference to me.

We have high risk of Down's from our nuchal fold, we decided to wait for an amnio to find out for sure as the risk of miscarriage is lower. Now we are in this no-mans-land of waiting for two weeks. I feel like my life is on hold. I can't tell anyone new that I am expecting and I feel so ashamed of trying to hide my growing bump so that I don't need to explain myself to anyone. one minute I am feeling positive, the next I am sure that the news will be bad. I am frightened. This morning I wept at the midwife's because she offered to listen to the baby's heartbeat. I couldn't hear it, not being sure that I will ever get to know this little one.

Just tell me I'll get through this. Thank you for reading.

Hi Jeffily,
I've just got back from holiday - my OH convinced me I needed to get away for a bit and he was right. Although I spent most of the first week in a nice big bed watching films and ordering room service.
I'm at 21 weeks now, so fingers crossed for teh next two or three weeks. I've got another couple of scans booked and am just counting down until the 23rd week.
Hope everything is going great for you - did you get the karotype done? Have you told work yet?
xx

Hi Chubbly

Sorry it's taken me so long to reply! Everything has got a bit hectic here. Glad you had a nice relaxing holiday- a nice big bed with films and room service sounds like bliss to me at the moment! Everything is good here though, I have now told work, and my boss sent out a letter to the parents of the kids in my class on Friday (am a teacher) so now is all feeling very real indeed!

Oh, meant to write you a proper reply but DD has woken up and is wailing, so will have to come back later! Hope you are still going well! xx

Hi Jeffily,
I've waited even longer to reply - we're still hectic!
Well I've been for the 23 week scan (I'm nearly 25 weeks now). It all looks pretty good. They are still going to scan me every 2 weeks just to make sure - but the baby had normal blood flow, which was the main thing teh consultant was looking for. It's a little small but not tiny. I think we're just relieved... I can finally start telling people.
The consultant was much more optimistic - I think he just gave us honest odds earlier, but they've got better so I can start planning for this one; mainly buying premature baby clothes as my girl had tiny baby clothes when she was born (and they were a little big). I hope eerythign is going well with you... glad we're through the stressful times!
xx

Hurrah, hurrah! So lovely to hear from you Chubbly and with such good news! So are they thinking that you will probably make it towards full term now then? I am so pleased that everything is looking good for you.

We had our 20 wk scan today, though am 21+5. All looked good, everything present and correct and baby leaping around like mad. I am so happy!

I guess you are due in Feb sometime then are you? I am often about on the March antenatal thread, but do check in here regularly as well- I'd love to stay vaguely in touch as we actually get there- it felt for a while like it was a mountain too far didn't it?

So pleased again about your news. Take good care. xx

Hi Jeffily - yes I'm back in for another scan tomorrow. The consultant is hoping everything will hold out until full term, but he's said I should come in for any bleeding or if I feel the baby isn't moving enough.
It's been hard on us, but we're feeling positive about it. I'm so pleased it worked out ok for both of us!

I am due in Feb - but I haven't made it over to the boards yet. I feel I should offer a bit more support on these as I actually studied genetics at uni so know a bit more about some of the conditions (googling comes up with all sorts of weird advice). Do you know the sex? We're having another girl - which is great, I won't have to rebuy so much! It would be lovely to stay in touch - it seems like the worry is a world away.
xx