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Very high risk of downs. Support needed please

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eavers · 24/07/2010 10:51

I really needed some support I am awaiting the results of the CVS test.

I went for a nuchal scan at the FMC on monday and was given a 1 in 2 risk of downs. The nuchal measurement was 6mm, there was reverse flow in the heart, the blood test was not good and they couldn't find a nasal bone. The doctor said he thought it probably did have downs.

I can't stop crying, I feel so empty and drained. MOnday seems such a long way away.

I am 37 have 2 DS and have had 3 miscarriages, I was so happy to get to 12 weeks after having had miscarriages.

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ohnonotagain13 · 24/07/2010 15:20

Eavers, I am so sorry that you're going through this. So, very sorry

I'm afraid it doesn't look good does it. But, there is still the tiniest chance that it will be okay. My story is similar to yours, and unfortunately we were given bad news after having the CVS. I did research all the markers while we were waiting those awful few days, and I'd come to my own conclusion that it would be bad, and unfortunately I was proved right.
The couple of days we had before getting the results we used to get our head round the news we were sure was coming, and it did help. I don't like being negative, but thought you would like to know how we handled the situation.
When we were told that the baby had downs it didn't come as a shock, and I was able to make arrangements straight away - we had already made the decision to terminate if the situation was as we thought.
I like you, have had multiple miscarriages, but thankfully have one son already. We couldn't believe that it had gone wrong again.

I don't want to give you false hope, but I have heard of cases where there's been a 1 in 2 risk and they had good results. I just pray that this is the case with you.

Stay strong, take comfort from your boys, and hold tight till Monday. I shall be thinking of you.

Mishtabel · 24/07/2010 21:43

Eavers, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. The wait is absolutely terrible. I was in almost your exact situation just over 2 years ago; the 1 in 2 chance, 3 previous mc's, the relief at finally having to made it to 12 weeks. Except I was 38 and with 2 DD's rather than sons. Unfortunately, the results for us were confirmed, and I also chose to terminate (obviously a very personal choice).

All I can recommend is to take it one step at a time, and to try to distract yourself in any way you can until you have your results, because no amount of worry will change the outcome either way. I know this is easier said than done. How old are your boys - is there something you can do with them today to make the time pass? Otherwise, trashy tv or DVD box sets are often recommended for the wait. I myself completed all the levels on a stupid computer game, Jewel Quest. Anything that distracts without requiring too much concentration on your part is good.
As the above poster said, it doesn't sound good, but until results are through, there is a glimmer of hope. I sincerely hope your results turn out fine. Please let us know how you go (if you feel like it of course). One step at a time.... xxxx

Mishtabel · 24/07/2010 21:50

Sorry Eavers, I'm on Sydney, Australia time - I meant is there something you could do tomorrow of course. I hope you manage to get some sleep xx

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eavers · 25/07/2010 11:41

Thankyou so much for your kind words. I wasn't going to post on here as i thought it wouldnt help me but I am amazed how much your words have helped. Thankyou.

I am feeling better today. The news has sunk in and I agree with ohnonotagain13 that because the nuchal scan was so bad that the results tomorrow will not be a shock as they might be to someone who had been given a lower risk rating.

DH has taken my DS's out for the morning. They are 5 and 2 so still need a lot of looking after and i feel that i need peace and quiet at the moment to just sit and read or watch trash on telly.

I'll post again when I feel able to.

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busierbee · 25/07/2010 17:13

Dearest lady
Your statisics almost parallel mine; also from the FMC. I remember the shock so very well; I had all those things; the ductus flow, the non presence of nasal bone. And I remember clearly saying to the sonographer; 'but this is as bad as it gets. You never give anyone a 1;1 chance do you?'
There were correct.
My baby had Down Syndrome.
I was devastated.
They know what they are doing at the FMC, but EQUALLY, there are tales here of women who have also had the same statistic and have had a healthy baby. Not false hope really, just the way that life can be.
I wish you strength; hold on tight to your boys.
You will be strong enough to deal with it but I wish for you that you did not have to.
wishes
Bee xxx

florrie83 · 25/07/2010 18:51

im in a similar situation as you. im 27 and 12wks today and on friday i had a nuchal translucency and dating scan. it showed a 5.6mm nuchal area. the normal range is
aparentley 1mm to 3.5m. they took blood for the test after the scan and im waiting for
the results to come back. but unlike you, you could clearly see a nasal bone. they where so concerned with this nuchal measurement that
the got a consultant to speak to me and ive been adviced to have a CV test. they didnt look at the heart on my scan but there was a clear heartbeat and peanut was moving and hicupping. he adviced me that in his opinion the blood test would come back around the 1 in 5 chance of downs this is my
second child( bradley will be 9 in feb) i was never offered this type of scan when i was pregnant with him but my blood test result came back at 1 in 220 at the age of 18! with this result i had to have an amnio test which gave me days of worry but everything was fine. my partner wants me to have the cv test but with the result with bradley aswell i dont knw what to do? also not having a nuchal scan with bradley there is a possability that he could have been the same. im really worried

EmsieRo · 25/07/2010 19:19

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florrie83 · 25/07/2010 19:46

EmsieRo i have added both of my scan pictures to my profile, have a look and see what you think. after some www research i think they naffed up the scan, and what they are saying is the outer wall of the nuchal is actually the umbilical cord. and as you see from the pic my uterus is at a weird shape. also when they where scanning the had to press on so hard it hurt! i felt brused the next day!

EmsieRo · 26/07/2010 00:21

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eavers · 31/07/2010 11:04

Got the result on Monday and as suspected the baby did have downs.

We had already thought hard about what to do so were ready to make the decision to have a termination. They managed to fit me in the next day for a surgical termination, I was just within the limits.

Am just trying to take things slowly, one day at a time. Very difficult though.

Thanks for all your kind words.

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Arianasmummy · 31/07/2010 20:07

Hi Eavers,

Just to let you know that i'm thinking of you.

Be gentle with yourself.

Marie

PipPipPip · 10/08/2010 17:07

Hi Eavers, I just want to say that my thoughts are with you. Pip

Mishtabel · 12/08/2010 04:53

Eavers, I'm sorry I seemed to have missed your update until now - I had been wondering about you. I'm so sorry. I hope you're going as well as can be expected. Just know that there are people here to help support you, if you need. Even if you don't post, sometimes it helps just to read and know that you're not alone in your experience and feelings. Take care xxx

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