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Not sure I can go through it again

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SerialSleeper25 · 23/02/2026 21:27

I hope one of you can help me here. So, we had our little boy in September 24. We did have a miscarriage one year previously to welcoming him. pregnancy and birth were uncomplicated. Pretty easy birth, if I could say that. Aterwards though, was horrible. My baby, wasn't easy. We struggled with feeding, gas and mostly, sleep. It wasn't until he reached 14 months that he wouldn't wake more than 7 times a night. I really struggled postnatally. I didn't have healthcare help. I blocked it off. My partner, he's not one to know how to help. He tried. I turned into a horrible person. I really struggled. I yelled at both him and my baby. Looking back I'm horrified and honestly I still get like it.
I don't want only one child but i'm terrified of going through it again. What if the second is just as unhappy as my first was?

I'm going through some gynae stuff medically and with that and my age I feel a little up against the clock. I get I'm only 33 but I feel like i can see the hill....
My partner also stated he doesnt wish to wait to long as he is older.

Has anyone got any advice or guidance?

OP posts:
Ternmcm · 23/02/2026 21:39

I had a really tough time after my first was born. Not depression, but incredible anxiety. 24/7 terrified i would do something (or not do something) that would hurt her. I couldn't eat, sleep, couldn't even hold a conversation really, I just wasn't there.
Baby #2 and baby #3, i loved every minute of it. #1 is now a happy healthy 12 yo!
So my point is, your next experience might be very different. Best of luck.

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