Worried about my husband

[Emaly]

Hi. I’m hoping others are going through the same thing and have some advice! I had a c section to deliver our first baby just over a week ago. Since we have been home, I think we have been getting on really well! Baby boy sleeps at night and wakes every 2-3 hours to feed but takes about an hour to go back down. My husband has never been very good when sleep deprived, but I’m starting to really worry about him. He’s becoming very down and not himself. I want to take over completely in the night so he gets full nights sleep but I’m also incredibly tired and still sore from the c section! Any advice or just someone who is going through the same? ❤️

It’s only been a week. He’s probably just tired, I myself go very quiet when I’m tired. If he’s still like this in 3 months then I’d start asking more questions, but having a baby if life changing for you both. A week is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

congratulations on your new arrival!!

Talk to him. ask him how he is doing and what he needs. Then talk strategy if needed. In my experience sleep deprivation was only part of the picture and I underestimated how much DH was struggling with seeing me undergo and recover from an emergency c section and infection whilst simultaneously becoming a father.

Or rather, I was busy trying to recover and care for a tiny human, my suggestions to him to slow down were ignored, I was getting frustrated as he had strong ideas about what I needed ro recover rather than listening to what I wanted, and I just didn't grasp that what he was struggling with was so emotional for him. It took him a couple of months to be able to articulate it but by then he was already spiralling.

His having to provide me with so much care initially and with little support (practical and emotional) from family and friends really struck him deeply.

The above might not apply to your situation, but it shouldn't hurt to check in with him.
Yes it's early days, but it might make a big difference to him to hear that you care about him too.

And congratulations:)