Termination for mental health

[Boymum2256]

I know no one can make the decision for me and my partner but I know I’m not the only one that has been in this situation.

so I’m 23 mum of 2 boys 3&2 and I’ve been with my new partner for a year now and we are 13 weeks pregnant, I’ve suffered with my mental health for years and this pregnancy my depression is so bad we also don’t live together, his mum doesn’t like me and we’re not very stable.

i think I we’ve both agreed to end the pregnancy as much as it is going to hurt us.

has anyone had one at 13 weeks? How did you cope mentally after it ? Did the guilt take over?

Hi lovely.
I hope you are okay?

I did this back in 2017. At the time, it just was not right. But i cannot lie, I always wonder about the what if. Who he/she would have been. What life would look like? I was nearly 17 weeks when I had surgery because I just did not know what to do. Ultimately, you need to do what's right for you.

I have gone on to have more children, and i think thats added to my guilt.

I hope you are okay. X

Aww op, l hope you get some good, helpful supportive advice.Following

Hi OP, I'm going in tomorrow right on the dot of 14 weeks due to psychosis and depression concerns, I've had a medical abortion 13 years ago and felt 0 guilt/depression over it if that helps you. There's a hormone crash after where you can feel quite weepy but no existential guilt for me anyway. Not quite what you're looking for, just wanted to let you know you're not alone and it's about what is right for you firstly, and your family aswell. I'm getting a vacuum aspiration with local anaesthetic as medical at this point can be quite gruelling and traumatic but there's also the option for a surgical D+E abortion possibly with general if that sounds better for you.

You can contact BPAS directly and they will talk to you and counsel you - they don't push you either way but will listen to you and you're under no pressure to decide either way. They will just give you your options and you can cancel at any point.

Thank you everyone for your lovely responses.

I’ve had my consultation appointment through and it’s not until the 20th and I’ll be 14 weeks it’s then Christmas so I don’t know how soon I’ll be able to have my surgery. With my previous pregnancy’s I could feel baby move about 15/16 weeks I just don’t know if I could do it after feeling baby move 😢

@Boymum2256 Thinking of you op at such a difficult time.Sending love.

Just checking in to see how you are 💐💓

Hey thankyou I ended up having a miscarriage at 16+5 weeks the day before my surgery, she was a little girl and we named her Honey. I held her and seen her she was so beautiful and all her little features were there she looked so much like her dad. I’m actually doing okay mentally it hasn’t effected me much but it has only been 2 weeks 🩷

I am glad you are at peace with what has happened and feeling OK.

Next step is some really good contraception - sounds as though you are like me - my OH hardly had to smile at me and I was pregnant! Hope you can get the advice you need.