Does medication actually work ?

[Mum7644885]

Appreciate any advice on this.

Mum of a 11 month old and 4 year old. I’m burnt out, back at work, partner is at work, 0 help from friends and family and that’s not going to change. Myself and my partner are juggling everything between us, I have historically picked up most of the slack with kids and the house, house mainly. I’m exhausted, early wake ups, disrupted nights, no downtime, constantly being needed, high bills so no choice but to work full time hours and as said, no outside help.

My situation is the same as many but feel we are in the trenches right now, mostly because of the attention required for our youngest.

I’m depleted and nothing is helping, my partner is depleted also, so we are batting back and forth between us all the time and neither of us have anything left in the tank majority of the time.

I feel low and have openly said I am unhappy, which I hate. I love my kids, they bring me joy, but the stress and weight of responsibility is crushing me. I’m at a point where I’m like what do I do ? I need a boost, I need to improve my mood and there arnt many active steps I can take right now, so does medication help ? I’ve been offered anti depressants before and I didn’t take them as I was scared of the side effects but I need some help right now and something to drag me through

Hmmm this is a tricky one because it doesn’t seem as though you’re actually depressed, more burnt out by your current lifestyle. I don’t know whether antidepressants will do much to change that. It sounds really difficult and I can relate, though I don’t work full time. Can you definitely not afford to reduce your hours?

I know, I didn’t start off depressed but circumstances are creating a serious low mood, as time is ticking by I’m finding it harder and harder to keep on top of things.

I work 4 days but full time, so I do have 1 day off but thats spent looking after the kids. I can’t drop a day, I did the calculations and I think the added stress of lack of money will make things worse, as if I drop a day, my bills don’t change, I don’t for example want to drop the kids 1 day from nursery as then I’m still in the same situation :/

I’m just very aware I am struggling to find joy in things, even little things. Then I watch my kids and I love them so much but I feel such guilt for feeling so unhappy, I’m like what is wrong with me ! I don’t I feel happy like others seems to be

Take the pills. Even if it’s short term. It’s hard to see through the fog, it’s a chemical imbalance and they get such bad press. If you were diabetic you would take medication for it…..when things seem clearer, life will get easier. Finding a good fit is important, some are better than others in terms of side effects.

@Jochef what I worry about is if circumstances are making me feel so low, will taking antidepressants help? As the circumstances won’t change, if that makes sense ?