Why am I feeling like this?

[emlouba]

Hello,

I'm coming on here for some advice really, I had my baby 11 months ago. Since having him - my sex drive has literally gone! I don't feel like having sex, although I do around once/twice a week. However my partner has picked up on it, he feels really unwanted atm, I never come onto him. As I just feel no urge to? Whereas before I did!
This without pin pointing the reason (however I feel it comes down to this) has caused arguments between me and my partner, j feel like he doesnt feel like i want to be with him anymore etc when I do.

I just don't know why I feel like this? Hes suggested I might have postnatal depression? Where I don't feel depressed I just have no sex drive, help! Please tell me why I could be feeling like this!? It's causing real issues between us both 😣

Thanks

Are you breastfeeding? Breastfeeding absolutely killed my sex drive.
But equally 1-2 times a week is still plenty for most couples with young children. It's just a phase in your life. I'd imagine it will come back over time as you sleep more and start getting more couples time again.

@ByDreamyMintNewt no I didn't end up breathing feeding in the end! Yes well right now it's been 2 weeks since we did as I ended up getting an infection so I was ill, and now we aren't talking due to a silly argument. But I really feel like this is causing a huge problem as he feels like I don't love him anymore due to not coming on to him etc!
The way I feel right now it would be forced as I just don't know where my sex drive has gone!
I hope it's a phase and comes back but I'm not sure if I should speak to a doctor about it or something to see if anything I can take or do! X

For goodness sake, what is wrong with men these days honestly? I'm four months post partum and we haven't had sex once, because I don't want to, I'm tired, I'm not interested. I don't have post natal depression, I've just been through birth and pregnancy and want a fucking break and not to be touched right now.

It comes back, it did before. He needs to grow up and get over it, especially if he's still getting it once or twice a week. You're not the problem, he is.

@chanipumpkin thank you ❤️ honestly that's how I feel tbh. He's causing so many arguments over nothing - I'm feeling so ok edge with it all!
Everytime I say I had a baby that's why, it will come back etc, he always says 'that was nearly a year ago' he doesn't get it. But I just want it to come back it's fustrating and stressful for me too! X