Not recognising myself as a mother

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Has anybody else found themselves in this situation?

I had a failed induction, we tried everything and on day 6 I was given an emergency c section. I never had a contraction and no labour.

I see my daughter and I love her because she is my husbands daughter but I don’t instinctively recognise myself as a mother or that she is mine because my body stopped at pregnancy.

for information I had a terrible time and wasn’t fit to bond with her when it happened and this was on her predicted due date, we get on really well and I love her but there’s a disconnect I guess.

Bumping for you, as I don't have experience if this issue but I'm sure many will have.

After such a traumatic experience for both of you it's no wonder you don't feel how you expected to feel.

It can happen over time. It doesn't have to be instant. Look at all those who adopted and love their kid/their partners kid like it was from their own body.

Probably counselling would be the way to go.

Would your health visitor or gp be a place to start to find the right type of talking therapy for you? It could help you get over the trauma and bond with her now?

She knows your her mum. Your voice has been with her daily while in the womb. She's fine.

You're the one who rightly deserves support to recover from such a difficult experience so you can leave the past trauma behind and move forward.