Not happy

[Pippippip2024]

Feel awful. I’m a shit mother. Can’t keep the house properly, crap friend, crap wife, rubbish at my job, lazy & incompetent. I can’t focus on any task long enough to finish it. My finances are a mess. I worry about everything and more all the time

How old is your child OP? Try not to be too hard on yourself, and try not to “measure” yourself and your success like that. I’m sure you are a brilliant wife, mother, and more than that an amazing person. X

They are 2 & 4. I spend all my time trying to keep the house tidy, cooking, stopping fights sibling rivalry, dealing with accidents, avoiding accidents. I can’t finish any task so it’s always a mess. Everything is so expensive that all my money goes on utility bills and I’ve been stupid and bought some small things like clothes for the kids that I cant afford on klana and now I can’t afford to pay it and I’m in my overdraft getting charged daily. I only work part time as childcare costs more than what I would get paid. I love my job but I’m not sure if I’m being given too much work or I’m just not organised enough as I find I’m having to fit in work everyday from home or I’ll be behind. I spent all last week coming up with ideas for a new project (I was asked to). I brought all my notes and work examples in for the big meeting on friday and the boss didn’t even ask me to present anything the end and wasn’t interested in my ideas. I cried after. New noisy neighbours building shit and having parties is getting me down. I don’t have time to take care of myself or I’m too lazy. My hair is always notty, my feet are manky. I don’t go to any things my friends invite me too so they think I’m shit. I don’t want to leave the children yet and I always come away from social events feeling like I’ve said or done something stupid. Husband is never happy with me. Tells me I’m a drain.

Sorry paragraphs would have been useful there!

Thank you for your reply.

It sounds like you are really overwhelmed OP. Could you take even a few days leave to give yourself a little break to just relax for a minute and make a plan? Is there any of these jobs your husband could help with? Do you have a good support system around you, family or friends you can lean on a little bit? Can you speak with your employer about your work load maybe?

Yes I’ve got great support around me. My husband does loads. He’s a much better person in every way than I am. I’m a total drain on the daily.

Family*

I get anxious when other people look after the kids. I can’t relax either way