Sorry if this may be a long post I'm just looking for advice.
It was Mother's Day on Sunday and I got not text from my child's father. It really upset me and has me feeling so low that he didn't think i was worthy of that simple message.
A bit of backstory. We were together for 2 years. He cheated on me at 8months pregnant, was there for the birth and we stayed together until August 23 he was still cheating 🙄 he left the country and moved abroad and is still there. He sends money and FaceTimes although none of this is consistent. We used to talk a lot more but in the last few weeks I've been getting little to no texts asking about our DS and going a week/2 weeks not texting. I try my best to accommodate him with FaceTime and I send pictures and videos some of this he doesn't reply to or short answers. It seems like he completely does not care anymore. He asked to FaceTime today but I wasn't home , I brought up how he couldn't say happy Mother's Day and how it upset me and he said why would he when we're not speaking & proceeded to say yeah I sent a text to my mom why wouldn't I why would I say it to you' I just find it so disrespectful as I never did anything to him I didn't break up our relationship and him and his family (who don't speak to us since august) have never helped and hurt me so badly. I think I'm just asking how the hell do I ever move on from this man and not care about anything to do with him? Please don't be judge me as I don't think it's my fault I still have some kind of feelings and expectations I never thought I would be in this situation when I got pregnant ( he was a great boyfriend) aren't they all 🙄 and my life fell apart I live at home still, I'm broke and I've sacrificed everything , he loves life to the fullest abroad and has new girls all the time I also feel just why wasn't I good enough for him and it's made my self esteem so low and I've lost a lot of weight. Again please don't slate me . Thanks
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anon990 · 14/03/2024 20:21
It sounds as Thoth you're really struggling @anon990 and you're having difficulty moving on.
You say he was a great BF but he wasn't really was he? He cheated on you, moved abroad and left you and your LO. Shows little interests in his LO and doesn't provide for him properly
I'm not seeing a great BH here at all.
Losing weight sounds like you could be suffering with depression? Gave you spoken to your GP at all?
Have a think about doing the Freedom Programme because whilst you're feeling this low, you might be vulnerable to another man who also isn't going to treat you properly 
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