Hi,
I was wondering if anyone could help me. I am currently around 17.5 weeks pregnant with my third child. Due in august - I have a son who will be just turned 6 and a daughter about to be 4. When I found out I was pregnant, I cried. Strongly considered termination but couldn't bring myself to do it because I was scared of how I'd feel after - so here I am. I've had my scan and all looks healthy and I know it's a little boy. I still haven't told anyone apart from my husband.
Initially after the scan, I felt a bit better. And my husband seems fine with it all. But now the panic and feeling of overwhelm is growing again. Things I'm worried about:
- Finding time to balance everyone's needs. I want my children to have hobbies and interests and want to be able to support them all and be there.
- Work. I enjoy work. I teach part time 3 days a week and use a childminder/nursery. Obviously when I'm at work I can't do the school run and feel guilty as it is. I don't want to have to leave my job. I'd like to go back full time when they're bigger but it doesn't feel possible with 3. It's going to be such a juggle.
- Money. We are comfortable but not wealthy. I'm worried about affording to support three children. Being able to give them hobbies. Being able to support them in their future, if they want to go to uni, buy houses etc. Goodbye nice holidays and disposable income.
- Lack of family support. My mum lives about 3 hours away. She's great and visits lots but obviously it's a long way. My husband's parents are both getting older now. I very much do not have a 'village'.
- My daughter is very much the baby. I'm worried she'll resent a sibling.
- I love my children beyond measure but I also find motherhood tedious at times and need time for myself and again this seems impossible with 3. The feeling I'll never have peace again.
- Back to square 1 with sleep, breastfeeding, nappies...
- Worried about worst case scenarios... Like severe autism or another disability or health issues.
I feel completely trapped and have moments of total heart racing panic. I already take sertraline 50mg.
Any advice? Please help me stop spiralling.