Hi all,
I'm a FTM and have a 3 month old daughter. I love her more than anything but I wish that I'd never had her. I can't tell you how awful I feel saying that but I'm really struggling to adjust to motherhood and I can't cope with how demanding and full on a baby is. I don't know why I thought I could be a mother.
I had these feelings straight after she was born but I put it down to the baby blues. Unfortunately, they never went away and they've slowly gotten worse over the last couple of months. I have moments where I just wish I was dead, I would never commit suicide but I have fantasies such as dying in my sleep.
I cry a lot but there are also times where I kind of zone out, like I struggle to talk or think. My daughter isn't the easiest baby, she's currently fighting every nap so then becomes overtired and hysterical and she frequently wakes at night (last night she was up from 5am screaming).
I'm currently an expat living abroad in my fiancé's home country so I'm away from my family. Unfortunately, my fiancé doesn't get on well with his family so we don't have a support system here. I also haven't made any friends (sad I know, I just find it very hard due to low self esteem and confidence) so I feel very lonely. I'm not sure what the point of this post is, I just wanted to put my thoughts down and talk to someone who may have gone through something similar. Everywhere I look it says that having a baby gets easier, but it feels like it's getting harder and I don't know how much longer I can cope with it :(
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I wish I'd never had my baby
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GHDSF · 04/03/2024 16:54
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