How did you let your partner in?

[yoghurttops]

I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m not “happy” throughout the pregnancy. I have spoken to my midwife and I’m waiting for my first counselling session. I have 3 months to go and I’m not making plans for my new arrival. For example our landlord has asked us to leave and I just don’t have the energy to find somewhere even though this is so important. We’ve been rejected a few times. I haven’t done any shopping and I’ve not told my friends and family (just a few at the beginning when I was exploring my choices but I haven’t updated them since! They probably think I terminated).

Anyway my OH has been super positive and supportive. The other day he did mention that I’m not very happy these days and he doesn’t know why but keeps reassuring me that it will all work out.

I can’t seem to figure out how to let him into how I really feel and I can’t figure out what more he can do to help. He has been cooking and cleaning after work (I WFH and do my part, but also have bad pelvic pain so I do what I can), he makes sure we go out as he’s mentioned that I’m not catching up with friends the way I used to etc; he is also helping me with planning how to tell family without being pushy.

I dont really know what I need. I kind of what to be alone until it all passes but deep down I want to let him in and feel bad that he is so positive and hopeful and I’m depressed and scared and not as excited as I should be about having a baby.

How did you let your partners in?

[RoseFirstTimeMum1]

I directly told mine how I was feeling and when I wasn’t sure why I said that too. If you’re struggling to verbalise it perhaps write it down? Perhaps you could send him some material on antenatal depression?

There is a helpful organisation called PANDAS, and they have a Facebook group for the partners of women going through Perinatal depression.

https://pandasfoundation.org.uk/

You could explore that group for yourself and your own support - I use it alot - and you could encourage him to go on the Facebook group get some advice and support from other partners who are supporting Woman in our condition.

Good luck, and Merry Christmas x

[CadyEastman]

How are you all now @yoghurttops? Did you find somewhere to live?