Losing my baby girl at 20weeks

[Michah89]

My baby girl was born at 20weeks died 3mins later she had spina bifida and I'm struggling with guilt feeling it's my fault 😥

Oh sweetheart... I'm so so sorry... I couldn't not answer you...
There's a wonderful charity called SANDS..(Stillbirth and neonatal death society) they're always on the end of the phone to talk to you...
What was her name? X

Sophie Sheila died 23rd octberx

It's absolutely not your fault, but guilt is a very natural part of grieving. Massive hugs.

Sophie Sheila is a beautiful name. I'm so very sorry for your loss

Im so sorry for the loss of your little daughter OP.

It absolutely wasn't your fault, but you wouldn't be human if those thoughts didn't creep in at some point. As the first poster said, SANDS is a great resource and will let you talk through your heartache and worries.

I miss her all time 😭 private message if u want x

I'm so sorry about your little girl,

I had my first baby in 2013 at 23 weeks and he died 2 hours after he was born.

It's been 10 years and I still blame myself. I know logically that his internal problems were not caused by me ( Severe RPD, his lungs and kidneys hadnt formed properly ) but if I let myself think about him properly, the guilt eats me alive and I feel so desperate to just hold of him and keep him with me. But I cant, because hes gone. Even typing this I can feel that desperation creeping in and I'm trying to keep it at bay

Please, for your own mental health, seek some support and counselling ASAP. I mean it, as soon as you can. Please dont sit and think you deserve to live in pain like this because you dont. It's not your fault your daughter passed, it's not anything you did. You wouldnt blame anyone else for the loss of their baby would you? So please dont blame yourself

I really am sorry and I know your not okay, but I hope you will be. Please, go and get some counselling as soon as you can, dont live your life with this un deserved guilt x