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Neighbour noise making me depressed

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Elizabethxox · 10/10/2023 16:04

Sorry I’m new to this but I really need some advice and also to rant because I can’t seem to find a solution to my problem.

I am currently 27 weeks pregnant and I have a two year old. I live in a mid terrace renting & my next door neighbours moved in nearly a year ago. Up until they moved in it was empty so it was lovely and quiet.

the first day they moved in they were scraping the wallpaper off the walls (it was 10pm) they have four children who are all teenagers and they were running up and down the stairs. They also have three massive dogs (which I might add they don’t walk & breed them constantly & they are constantly cooped in and so they are left to bark all day) I thought great, no more peace for me. Since then it has been awful. It has been worse the last 5 months because she kicked her husband out. when the husband left she started having parties every single weekend, one night i had a migraine and I’d just put my little boy to bed (bare in mind this was a Wednesday) they were being so loud, I left it until around 12am and then I got my boyfriend to go round and just ask if they could just keep it down slightly, it wasnt the lady that lived there he spoke to it was one of her friends. Next minute the woman comes round knocking angrily at the door, I went in the kitchen with my dog cause she was barking. I heard her say to my boyfriend “don’t you fuc*ing come and knock on my door, address my friends and make them feel awkward, I can do what I like in my own home” so I came out and said “look, I am just asking you to keep it down my little boys in bed and my boyfriend has work in the morning” she said “oh sorry for you you have work” (she doesn’t work, guessing her friends don’t either if they were drinking midweek) then she started punching her fist into her hand, gesturing like she wanted to punch me. So I said “I’m pregnant” I thought I don’t want to be attacked. She carried on smacking her fist and said “oh sorry for you that your pregnant” she was getting so angry and kept saying “don’t start!” So I just shut the door in her face. The party that night went on until 6am. She had another party on the Saturday that week. We ended up sleeping at my mother in laws for some peace. I managed to find out who her landlord is and spoke to him, he phoned her and she came round and apologised for the way she acted. She’s stopped having parties But the thing that stress me now is her kids, they are constantly up running round screaming until 3am sometimes, i go to bed feeling anxious because I’m worried every night if I’m going to get some sleep, i ended up banging on the wall the other night.
i live in a constant state of anxiety & I’m worried I’m going to feel worse when the baby arrives and I’ll be even more sleep deprived. I don’t want to speak to her Incase she starts on me (she seems the type to attack a pregnant woman or key your car) I think she’s on drugs to be honest.
we aren’t in a position to buy just yet we are currently saving plus it’s hard as I’m a stay at home mum. Rent prices are shocking At the min so I don’t want to go and rent somewhere either. Honestly tempted to and live at my mums because I’m that stressed with it. What can I do 😞😞😞

I feel like I can’t really complain to her landlord about the children’s noise because won’t he just be like “ 🤷🏼‍♀️ “ plus when i phoned him he mentioned that hes friends with the husband so he knows them i can’t imagine he’d kick them out.

sorry it’s so long…

OP posts:
Octobermeterreadtime · 10/10/2023 16:08

Get the council involved... Keep a diary they will provide you with.

PenelopePlant · 10/10/2023 16:08

Can you complain to the council about the noise? Keep complaining to landlord, be a nuisance to him and he'll have to act, regardless of being friends with husband. And call the police

Ilikewinter · 10/10/2023 16:12

Honestly as you rent, Id do everything in my power to find a way to move. Its ok reporting to the landlord, the council or police but honestly it will take months...
If forever for anything to be done and you'll still have the anxiety of something kicking off.

viques · 10/10/2023 16:25

If she breeds or sells more than three litters in a 12 month period she needs to have a dog breeders licence.

I would add the dog nuisance to the complaints about the noise to the landlord. If he gets enough complaints he will with luck warn her that she will lose the house if it carries on.

PinkRoses1245 · 10/10/2023 16:28

Honestly I’d try and move, even if it’s to a smaller place. A neighbour like that will never change.

Zimunya · 10/10/2023 16:32

I feel for you, OP. I don't have an immediate solution, but in the longer term, you won't have to worry about your baby crying at all hours and/or worrying about keeping quiet when you are doing night feeds and early starts.

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