8 weeks pregnant, 4 kids at home and I’m exhausted and low

[tiredmama5]

I never stop, literally. I work 2 jobs, and we have 4 children at home and one on the way. I’m so exhausted physically and mentally and I feel like my kids and my partner isn’t getting the best version of me. I feel low in mood a lot, I keep telling myself it’s the hormones but I don’t know. I want to feel excited about the baby coming but I’m just so scared that’s it’s going to add so much more work and stress to our already ridiculously busy lives. I feel quite lonely, I don’t have friends close by and I just feel like alls I do is work, kids and housework. I love my kids and I’d do anything for them but I’m so burnt out and I feel so guilty that they don’t get the best of me right now.

im just asking for some advice really on how to manage and balance this. I literally get 2 hours of that a night to myself or with my partner. But I just feel so lost and so stuck in a rut. :0

I'm so so sorry to say this but why the flip did you get pregnant again? The situation sounds hard enough already.

You need to sort birth control after this one. There's only so much anyone.can take.

Why are you having another baby?

It's not the wisest decision to have another baby when you have so many already, sounds like you're already pushed to the edge of what is workable.

8 weeks means you still have time to consider a termination if you feel overwhelmed at the idea of 5 now it's a reality op.

I felt exhausted and stressed just reading your post, OP. Would you consider a termination? A fifth child on top of two jobs is just unworkable.
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Well, a new baby (and toddler!) will add more stress and work but hopefully you'll have maternity leave to gain a little time with the baby and other children. New babies often slot into your routine and can be entertained by the older ones.

Why not ask MN HQ to move this to Larger Families as I think you'll get more practical advice and support there?