AIBU: Husband fed up with me 17 days post partum

[nosleepclub2023]

Today after an argument I offered to take the baby to give my husband a break and he said 'I don't need a break from her, I need a break from you.' I can't stop thinking about it and crying. I feel like the worst person in the world. And I can't tell him how I feel because part of the reason he needs a break from me is because I'm 'always miserable'.

I have been struggling since giving birth for reasons he's aware of. I don't feel like I'm depressed though. Just hormonal and sleep deprived, and finding the practicalities hard like breastfeeding. It's only been 2.5 weeks.

Is he being unreasonable or should I be seeking help?

Both. He is absolutely being unreasonable and you could do with some help and some sympathy and understanding x

I agree with PP. He is being totally unreasonable but possibly he is sleep deprived and struggling too. But it does sound like you could do with reaching out to someone. Genuinely if you are feeling "miserable" in his words, a lot of the time, I would suggest that maybe you do need to help/sympathy/support. Parenting a newborn isn't easy by any means, but it shouldn't make you actively miserable all the time. But having a partner who is sympathetic and supportive would definitely help. Its a huge life change for you all. Sending hugs 🫂

The accusation of being 'always miserable' would have sent me into a sarcastic frenzy - in fact I think I had the same argument with my DH. He's turning on you because you're the nearest person in this situation, so there's no point taking it personally. If it's any consolation my son is now 4 and I'd forgotten that incident until I read 'a break from you!' - These fraught days will fade with time.