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Are pregnancy hormones to blame?

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MaisieRed · 21/11/2022 03:36

Hello.

I'm wondering if anyone's been through something similar to what I'm going through at the moment.
At around 26 weeks pregnant I started to go into a deep depression and this lasted around 2 months. With this I found myself wanting to be alone and very distant from my relationship with my fiancé.
It started to get better though in the last few weeks of pregnancy and I found myself feeling more myself and more like I did before the depression came. (For backstory I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, ocd and ptsd).
Im now 2 weeks PP and in the first few days I felt very vulnerable and was very anxious that my fiancé and I wouldn't make it. I would have massive panic attacks about it.
Now I'm gone the other way again and I'm feeling distant and not attached again. It's like I know I'm in love with him and I know deep down I have this true love but it's being overshadowed by worrying thoughts of whether I'm happy and whether I'm "in love". I find myself over analysing and questioning everything I think and going do I really love him. I'm very much in this newborn bubble and all i can think of is how much I love my newborn son. Is this maybe overshadowing my love for my fiancé? Will this die down?
Or is it still hormones from pregnancy making me this way?
If so does this die down?
I don't want anything to happen to my relationship but it's really hurting me inside.

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fairgame84 · 21/11/2022 04:18

I'm no expert but I think hormones has lot to do with it. DD is 6 weeks old and it's been tough due to tongue tie and colic and I've had lots of thoughts about whether DH and I will make it.
I have days where I feel like I hate DH and I will end up on my own. Then other times I feel normal towards him. Sometimes he does things that deserve the negativity but on the whole he's a good husband, especially compared what I read on here.
2 days ago I felt that I didn't love him and we would definitely divorce then the next day I was back to normal.
I did have days in pregnancy where I hated him and he couldn't do anything right as well.
I'm blaming it all on hormones because I'm not normally like this.

Spacebears · 21/11/2022 05:36

Yes it's hormones. I made a thread on here last week about how I was really not liking my partner at the moment at all. I never wanted affection from him at all. Lasted about 5/6 weeks for me. Just today, funnily enough I'm starting to feel different (24 weeks pregnant) and feeling the love again: wanting to be more affectionate. Basically what I'm trying to say is, yes hormones play a big part in this. When you are pregnant, your body goes through so much and it can be really hard for us. PP, you are in the newborn bubble. You're so focused on baby, there's not much room for anyone else atm. But I will get better. Baby will get older and things will change. If you are feeling extremely depressed again, seek some help from your GP. But it doesn't sound fairly odd to me, in my experience. Congratulations on the new babyFlowers don't worry too much and enjoy the baby stage. They don't stay little and cute like that for very longGrin

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