Really looking for some help. Myself and my husband have 2 daughters age 4 years and 2 months. With our oldest daughter my husband was and still is the best father you could ever imagine, when she was first born he changed every nappy and done every feed. He was instantly besotted with her and wouldn't put her down, there bond now is stronger than ever and they really do idolise eachother. Since our youngest has been born I have noticed he is not the same with her, there are no playful interactions, no kisses or cuddles nothing at all. He only picks her up when she crys and only feeds her if I ask him to and even then it's half hearted. I've been telling him for weeks that I think he's suffering from post natal depression but he wouldn't listen to me, I finally convinced him to see a Dr. Only for the Dr to tell him he doesn't look depressed and the fact he hasn't bonded with his child is completely normal? I'm really at my breaking point and so close to walking away he's all for our oldest and our youngest doesn't get a look in, I feel like I can no longer live in a situation where she is put second best. Every day he comes home and fusses the oldest and barely glances at the youngest unless he's asked to or she's crying. He has admitted to me that he doesn't feel the same about her as he does our other child although he has said hes getting better I can't help thinking that he's just saying what I want to hear as his actions do not line up with his words. He has said that he will see a therapist but my question is will the bond grow? Will he ever get there? Just need to add a few points about us 1. Both baby's were discussed and planned. 2. Our eldest daughter loves her little sister so much. she dotes on her. 3. The youngest is not a cryer or anything like that she sleeps from 11 at night until 7.30 in the morning. 4. There are no money worries that would play part in this. 5. When I think about it he was not even the same during the pregnancy this time around, didn't want to feel her kick, missed scans, etc. Any advice you can give would be so appreciated I really need someone's perspective on this to help me through.
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Motherof2xx · 17/09/2022 23:39
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