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Loss of child 2nd trimester & struggle with weight

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Jaykennedy · 03/09/2022 23:21

I had an induced labour at 18 weeks, there is too much background to cover but I will be here for him when he comes back with all the necessary equipment!
I have a question that no research is giving me any answers to. Has or is any other women out here struggling with their weight after the loss of their child, no matter how far along? I'm just a wee girl, 44kgs before getting pregnant and afterwards understandably 47kgs at 4 months. The one thing that I could feel remotely positive about was that I would at least shrink again, but it seems to me like i've lost my baby and my barely formed bump turned into flab instead and I have nothing to show for it. I used to look in the mirror and appreciate my body, I actually liked the look of my own body but now I can't help but nit pick in all areas of my body. Even my thighs have gained and some clothes i'm still waiting for feel comfortable in again. I know that I haven't turned to food as a comfort, I've always eaten much less than I need to, just a small dinner after work and I walk walk walk like there's no tomorrow, 2 hours daily on empty. So how could I possibly have gained and why won't these certain areas go back to normal? I know that it seems uncaring to toss and turn about my body that was carrying my baby but I can't help but feel like I will never love my body again so I would really appreciate some other women's experiences and some why's answered, please!

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stealtheatingtunnocks · 03/09/2022 23:33

I love the way you describe you’ll be ready for when he comes back to you. Made me proper smile. .

so, you are 4 months after your pregnancy ended and are now 3kg heavier? I know that must feel like a lot on a small frame, but that isn’t a long time to get your head round what has happened never mind ping back to shape .

there isn’t any reason why weight gain/loss would be harder wirh a pregnancy carried to term than not.

there is absolutely nothing wrong in having pride in your body ans wanting to regain that.

Might be worth asking to see a pelvic health physio and see if you have got a split in your tummy muscles? And some advice about return to exercise?

i am sorry about the loss of your son. I hope he doesn’t take too long to come back to you.

heartbroken22 · 14/09/2022 09:39

I'm so sorry for your loss x

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? But it's normal to gain a little weight as we get older and our bodies do change. Don't be too harsh on yourself. Also it's normal for our bodies to change with each pregnancy. It won't go back to exactly how we were before but it will take time to loose what we put on. I hope you're okay. I really was praying for you. We will get our beautiful babies back when the time is right xx

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